Krazykat,
I am sorry you were hurt. I tend to feel really icky after a situation like you describe too, and I know how it can ruin your day. I know you must be disappointed that people that you share spiritual connection with could mistreat you. I tend to circle my wagons when I am treated badly. I learned during my divorce that only people who are encouraging and supportive will be allowed inside my circle. The good thing is you know who isn't "safe" now.