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About raydee8_love

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  1. NOTHING !!!! - You have done nothing wrong. Do you understand how you now believe that, you committed some offense for which you need to be punished/banished ? He has placed this idea in your mind. He criticizes you without really knowing you. He finds objections before there is any evidence. He admires you then pushes you aside. He speaks sweetly then explodes. He acts like a gentleman then he assumes the role of a cad. Do you pick men or attract men who all follow these actions? If so, then I would say maybe you need to find a different path. But in this case this man - this is all on him. Yes, this is mind games. He wants a certain response and so he tries method A, then Method B - no result = explosion. He goes back to Method A and still no result = he disappears. He tries method C = cut you off. Where are his divorce papers????? Why can't you meet his family??? Why can't he meet your friends and family? Can't Even Text?? No 10 minute call ???? It's really hard on our psyches when we like someone like this kind of man. What about your investment?? So far I don't see any investment or true concernment on his part my best friend is dealing with something very similar - they did have a relationship but is was the same thing, finding fault, criticizing, exploding temper - she was often wonders what she did wrong too- but it's the same answer NOTHING - you didn't do anything wrong!!
  2. i thought this meant apologize - does it mean break it off?? i think the up/down, in/out, hot/cold is just a operating mode it usually works Lfm helps people like you but remain respectful
  3. I agree with this - preformance is at the top of his list - and the big head needs to have the little head make it ED is heartbreaking and can ruin a relationship if correct action is not taken - and medical checkup is needed
  4. i find this highly worrisome - new people are usually more blind to people's faults .... He is telling you it won't work out without saying this. 10 days?? his sister?? no communication??? Very odd Plus - leaving a lady stranded on a street ???? - what kind of a man or a friend does that ?? a lot of what he is saying probably works on other women - yes sit back and do NOTHING do stuff with friends and family, make things, read, cook i think he will call in 10 days LFM - mix it up
  5. Where have Sugared layerables moved to?? they used to be with Fairy Cakes -
  6. that is very Capricorn... so thrifty .... so cheap this!!! this is just selfish - he could have fish, soup, vegetables he doesn't need to order high calorie food - so I'll call him on that ......hhh say What??? so he is testing to see what you will do - here for work again ???? if you already established and he was asking you to come to him that would be different why are You the squeeze in on the schedule avoidant behavior - he can't get close, when is he coming just to see you?? neither do I - what the hell?? hey be a gentleman and make a plan to see the lady ... another avoidant behavior capricorns are big on respect and reputation - his behavior towards you seems, at times, to be disrespectful also why doesn't he have his own copy of his divorce papers?? just another nagging tidbit in the usa divorce papers are public records and can be searched by county yes I agree 100% and when you're older we also have kids, stepkids, grandkids, elderly parents, other dependents and our work, our houses and stuff, debt, faults, baggage, unfinished business so it's acceptance ++++ I wonder if you could ask for some references ? you do for work professional and personal references I am still hoping he'll get over himself
  7. yes to TMI and Dom and leather some of his actions don't seem very capricorn w/leo moon -
  8. .......... hhhhmmmmm....... this makes me question what he really means..... seems kinda odd to me - why is he making all these plans?? when you don't know who he is yet- and he doesn't know who you are yet. I just don't like that he seems to rush in/back off..... rush in/back off - also finding fault in you- blaming you about phone call thing - that is highly worrisome to me - i do not like that at all enjoy what he offers - BUT don't invest in him , sit back and see how it goes - don't let him rush you into anything hoping for the best for you
  9. oh my gosh that is so awesome yes patience & compassion and he misses you and he's cute wet!!!
  10. I know exactly what you mean - no they are not perfect - I have been very frustrated...... I realize that being angry just makes them retreat into their shells even more - so I try to remember to have compassion -then i remind myself I am a good woman and deserve good love
  11. - I feel bad too !!! - hanging up on someone is unCapricorn , they are usually very contained Lots of anger in this, lots of frustration too. Just happen to be in same city?? does that mean he won't be making any effort, or you come to him or by chance you meet in neutral territory?? - lost of interest - PANIC and retreat Yes this was rude I was looking forward to you seeing him again! yes he will be feeling bad and disappointment.... the come on fast part then completely change course most likely is a pattern on his part .... I thought he was an introverted INJQRDUL??? what ever that personality thing is.... I don't think he does this at work - But again this is classic avoidant behavior - HE is Let down so HE needs to retreat leo moon ... this is very typical most men do anger as the surface issue - usually it's something else, like fear, shame, pride,panic, but anger is the only emotion they can do and it usually gets some kind of result even if it's negative. this again makes other people want to avoid him - avoidant behavior again make sure you give yourself sometime to work through the sadness and disappointment you are feeling don't bottle it up and dont try to stuff it down and yes attend to yourself, your business, your life, your friends, i am so sorry i wasn't there .... my heart is with you {{{hugs}}}
  12. classic avoidant behavior ... and "his idea"' what does that mean?? bind you? - compulsion ? okay it's still early for any family involvement but don't want them to know is hhhmmm..... he is a grown man not a high school kid just like another Cap with Leo moon i know ... keeping you at a distance do not project your own fears on to him you can always blame the equinox but don't let him cause you to panic no fear, no blame, no recriminations, no hysteria you can always say since this wasn't planned maybe it just isn't the right time
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