I just re-purchased H&S, and TH's in just the 10ml oil rollerball. I also purchased for the first time Mothers Helper. My dilemma: my DIL is so controlling (like on a level I've never experienced, oh and it's almost always about my granddaughter), with a large side of OCD and Anxiety. It's funny, I have/had a horrible MIL (I could fill a book, lol) and I turned all of that negativity into learning what NOT to do when my boys marry. I even purchased a few "How to be the best MIL type books" years ago. I was so ready to be everything and more to my DIL, it never occurred to me that my DIL would be the one causing ripples. I'll just call her K for convenience. K does have sweet moments where she will tell me how much she loves me and how lucky she is to have me because her Navy wife friends all seem to have problems with their MIL's.
Here's the short version...she gets jealous when John and I are around because Camden (my heart & soul) prefers us over Mom and Dad. My son has no problem with this, it makes him happy. In a weird way, it makes K happy too, BUT all of a sudden she will get weird and not let me change a diaper or go up and grab Camden out of her crib after a nap. K says, I always want to be the face she sees when she wakes up. I also get on her nerves very easily and tbh, I am so fucking nice to her 100% and I back her up (even though it's pure crazy mental crap) so she feels validated and loved unconditionally. It's not all bad, it's like 50/50. It's hard to keep up!!
So, the pheromones...I'm thinking H&S but I'm not taking a chance (which is why I purchased all 3 pheromone blends)
on wasting too much time figuring out which one will "fingers crossed" mellow her out, and or help her feel less jealous, etc..
I'll update as I go! Oh, and any advice is always welcome