phergineer Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) So far I've been looking for ways to impose myself, gain respect or become more open/connect in social situations which has always proven difficult because I am naturally an introvert. Tonight the opportunity shows up to go to a business casual dinner with my fiance, his company's CEO, founder, a few other higher ups and potential clients. He is not nearly in that circle of influence, but clearly they have him on his radar. The company is not huge, but has a few hundred employees. He is a social butterfly. If you are familiar with the DISC profile, he's an "I" with maybe a tiny "s"... I am a "C", with "S" and "D" following closely and "I" almost non existent. We could not be more opposite from each other. I obviously want to make a good impression tonight, while helping him be even more appreciated. I don't think me being in the spot light is necessarily a good idea. I am open to suggestions. What do I wear? what should he wear? I remember Dolly's thread about her experiment, but I am not sure this is the same situation, plus I do not have Dom with me. We are out of town, so I do not have my entire phero/scent arsenal with me, but I do have these (samples/trials/decants): UN Heart and Soul UN SWS UN LFM UN BAM! UN Lace OCCO White Topper Sneaky Clean with SS4W Valhalla with Open Windows Pherodise with Lumina A taste of Luxury with Audacious (which works well to dis-inhibit me around my fiance's friends, but I'm not sure I would use it in a business situation) Fairy Musk with Trasured Hearts (great around my fiance's family) Unisexy 2014 with B2.2 Beautiful Dreamer with BB (probably not...) Glamour Potion One True Love Thank you! Edited March 12, 2015 by phergineer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
halo0073 Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Since you are an introvert I would say keep it simple with Topper for you and OW for him. If that's not splashy enough for you, go with the Audacious. I trust you are adult enough not to go crazy around the big bosses. LOL. I am not familiar with the whole DISC thing but I have heard you talk about yourself enough to get it. Hopefully this will be the first of many chances to impress these people. Have fun with it. Let us know how it goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phergineer Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 Thanks Halo! Yes, I will definitely be on my best behavior, but I also don't want to be so tense where I completely shut down and don't say a word. I know he is worried about that side of me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StacyK Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I love LFM for this type of thing. It has the prefect dynamic for these situations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueBear Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I agree, I would wear LFM if I was in the same situation BUT she said she is introverted. I think LFM would really attract more attention than she might be comfortable with. On me, it has a sort of all eyes on me effect, and that might have the exact opposite effect on herself she's looking for! Phergineer, what do you mean by dis-inhibit? Did you make any inappropriate comments or something or just overly talkative? Because I'm actually thinking Audacious might be really, really good for this event. But if you are worried about your behavior, then by all means skip it and go with halo's suggestion of Topper. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phergineer Posted March 13, 2015 Author Share Posted March 13, 2015 Well... The second time I wore Audacious I went to a happy hour with a director from my company and some other people from a team who were interested in hiring me. I did not say anything inappropriate, but I felt like I wasn't in control of myself much. And I had no alcohol. It's almost like I was too comfortable in my own skin, trying to make jokes. granted, it was only after the fact that I learned one of them had a director status... Which may have played into me feeling more awkward about the whole situation. So for tonight I chose LFM with Topper. I'm hoping that fiance's OW will help me open up. We'll see how it goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cougarrific Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I thought your choices were great -- how did it go? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phergineer Posted July 15, 2015 Author Share Posted July 15, 2015 (edited) I thought your choices were great -- how did it go? I ended up wearing LFM with a bit of Topper, and it was perfect. In this case I didn't have to talk much, I just had to be a noticeable, positive presence for Mr. Phergineer. I had him sit right next to the CEO, and it worked beautifully. I mostly smiled, answered questions if asked, acted very polished. I think I fit the blend. Edited July 15, 2015 by phergineer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dolphindolls2 Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 I ended up wearing LFM with a bit of Topper, and it was perfect. In this case I didn't have to talk much, I just had to be a noticeable, positive presence for Mr. Phergineer. I had him sit right next to the CEO, and it worked beautifully. I mostly smiled, answered questions if asked, acted very polished. I think I fit the blend. I'm glad it turned out exactly how you wanted it to…congrats…. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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