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What scent to wear at work around a bipolar manager

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I work in a bakery/grocery store, have for the last 14 yrs, and my manager is bipolor, she's told me this, and I can tell when she's not on her meds. But after a week of playing with my new stash, I noticed that everyone has been allot friendly and open, esp her. I like that allot. So I was wondering if there is a perfume/pheromone that I could wear that is work safe. She has issues with me doing my job correctly, or rather her job correctly, she was out of work for two weeks due to illness, and I had to sort of step up to take the managers role, ordering, stocking, setting ads, and I did quite well, as we are short handed so not only did I have to do the work of the manager, I also both bakers, donut and bread so I did the work of two people, and helped the deli. I work in a grocery store. Instead of praises, she was furious that I did so well, and wouldn't talk to me for a week. I basically told her I was never going to do her job again. Well, a month later she was sick for a week and a half and I had to do both jobs, plus the manager job. She was sort of thankful. I just need something that helps me not feel as a threat to her, I know I tried LP Tropique one night with Gotcha, but I showered the next morning but that day everyone was super friendly and nice. The manager is super jealous when other co workers are friendly to the bakery/deli workers, so everyone walks carefully around her. She likes to tear us down rather than build us up.

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Treasured Hearts works best with this type of woman, in my experience. Unrelated to your specific person. I like to call it the "old bitch soother". Because it is. Like wow! TH is one of the pheros I don't get much from in the way of selfies. But, I'm never without it. OMG, it has saved many lives or at least family gatherings or other related situations.

 

I'd avoid cops completely (so save your Tropique for more worthwhile targets) due to her competitive nature.

Gotcha could soften her up. But, IMO beware. I've had 2 women become excessively, over emotional when I was wearing it close to them. It can really effect those who are emotionally sensitive from what I have seen.

IMO, Treasured Hearts is the way to go.

Edited by StacyK

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I am seconding Mel's advice on this. I *love* Balm Bomb! StacyK is right too. Many have great success with TH. I personally can't use it because it makes ME bitchy. I have never noticed the effects it has on those around me.

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You too, Mel? No idea why.. I think someone else had chimed in with a similar reaction when I first posted this response. So strange.. I tried various amounts of it in various circumstances, but WOW, was I ever bitchy! I couldn't even deal with myself! :nope02716:

ETA Here is my post in the phero review forum ; http://lovepotion.invisionzone.com/index.php?showtopic=1161&page=3&do=findComment&comment=418650

Edited by Rose Blackthorn

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Oh thank you!

We don't need her anymore emotional. She's cried enough this week, her and another co worker, got into it last week and all she did was cry. To me, it wasn't anything to cry about, But I think when she feels intimidated, she cries. The other co worker was acting all bitchy, and throws these little fits when she doesn't get her way, and went to the store owner about the manager. The manager was in the right. So maybe balm bomb would help soothe the bitchiness. Would it help with family members that dislike one another? I have a family event coming up in April where there are going to be family members that dislike one another.

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Oh thank you!

We don't need her anymore emotional. She's cried enough this week, her and another co worker, got into it last week and all she did was cry. To me, it wasn't anything to cry about, But I think when she feels intimidated, she cries. The other co worker was acting all bitchy, and throws these little fits when she doesn't get her way, and went to the store owner about the manager. The manager was in the right. So maybe balm bomb would help soothe the bitchiness. Would it help with family members that dislike one another? I have a family event coming up in April where there are going to be family members that dislike one another.

Yea, if she's so sensitive go easy on the Gotcha. I go with TH or you can try the Girl/Girl phero. Among heterosexual women it tends to bring about a friendly vibe. How old is she (the manager)? Sounds like you'll be killing two birds with one stone.

For your family reunion I'd go with Treasured Hearts or Heart & Soul.

BTW Open Windows is a feel good, happy, uplifting blend and might be another good choice for either of those situations.

 

Mel & Rose, I have that problem with BI. It has made me grumpy twice and give me a headache.

But, I found I can use 'small' amounts in an enhanced fragrance. Not around PMS time tho. lol But, I don't use the Un,

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The manager is in her early 50s. She had a full hysterectomy last year. We walked on egg shells for most of the year around her hormonal change. Not to sound mean. I am a caring person, really I am. But we road a emotional roller coaster for 6 months. We tiptoe around her hoping that we didn't set her off. One minute we will be getting along, the next moment she'll be your worst enemy. I might just order TH and balm bag.

I didn't mean to wear the gotcha at work. I had a date with farm boy on tuesday night, showered and went to work wedensady and she was my best friend, all nice and sweet, and we just stood back in shock. Co workers just looked at me like what the heck just happened here.

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The manager is in her early 50s. She had a full hysterectomy last year. We walked on egg shells for most of the year around her hormonal change. Not to sound mean. I am a caring person, really I am. But we road a emotional roller coaster for 6 months. We tiptoe around her hoping that we didn't set her off. One minute we will be getting along, the next moment she'll be your worst enemy. I might just order TH and balm bag.

I didn't mean to wear the gotcha at work. I had a date with farm boy on tuesday night, showered and went to work wedensady and she was my best friend, all nice and sweet, and we just stood back in shock. Co workers just looked at me like what the heck just happened here.

Yes Gotcha has that Velcro effect. But, she's also bi-polar so? But, you said you showered it off. I might guess the pheros had burned off by then but hard to say.

Due to her age and your overall description I still recommend Treasured Hearts as an alternet though. It really is the "old crone tamer."

 

If it were me I'd TH her to make the friendly all around. Then later maybe alternate with Open Windows which gently lifts the mood, yours and those around you.

Edited by StacyK

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