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Okay so come mid Sept I am going with my best friend and her fiance out of town for a weekend. We will be staying at his good friends house while there. The kicker is that the guy who's house we are staying at is single and they are basically making it into a casual double date situation. 

 

Now my question is what pheros in your professional opinions should I bring to wear? I'm thinking something potentially fun/flirty/bonding for daytime and a bit more sensual for the evenings if everything goes smoothly. I imagine there will be at least one evening of drinking and while I'm not looking for sex some cuddling and kissing could be nice if there is a mutual attraction. 

 

He is apparently a man's man but also a nerdy sweetheart. Think hunting/fishing, gourmet chef, computer tech guy who's into star wars and anime lol 

 

I want to make a good impression and feel good and as confident as possible about myself as I am about 20lbs heavier then I like being so I'm not feeling like I'm on my game right now.

 

Now I realize that the best answer is wear what makes you feel good but I haven't experimented enough with pheros to know yet.

 

Also note that I am 37 and I think he is in his early to mid 30s. I am a bit of a traditionalist when it comes to relationships, I very much love alpha males! I have most of the unscented pheros including gotcha and bang which I think are no longer available? Anyway any ideas? Any help would be great! Thanks guys!

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I owuld go with Open Windows & Love Potion Original. Maybe Cougar, if things go well. I wouldn't pull out the heavy cops unless you're wanting to go "there." You know the drill, lol. In my experience, if a guy likes you the age thing doesn't matter to them. Actually, it is mostly younger guys that hit on me. I am excited to have a date w/ a guy that's turning the big 4-0, next month! So don't let the age thing bother you because he won't if there's chemistry! 

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Thanks Becca,

 

Open windows is one of the few I don't have but I do have levitation. I also have perfect match, treasured hearts, lace and lumina that I was also considering for daytime.

 

I was definitely considering cougar for the evening or maybe even gotcha if thing were going really well but maybe that's too much?  I also have LFM... 🤔

 

He lives a few hours away so it would be long distance if anything came of it so I feel like I would want to leave him wanting more lol.

 

What are your thoughts?

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My thoughts are to stick with socials, so you don't skew your chemistry with him, with selfies from the blend you're wearing. That way you won't be feeling him a little too much & wondering if you're good enough for him, when you gotta be asking what he brings to the table. So Levitation or Lumina, maybe Cougar if you are feeling him. :) I wouldn't go with Gotcha unless things head to relationship territory. I will hopefully be taking my own advice & wearing something like I'm recommending to you, for my date tomorrow. But the new OCCOs smell soooo goood... Although I'll be meeting in a public place, not staying at his house. ;)

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Your right about the selfies, yeah I'll definitely stick to the social and keep the others in my back pocket in case there is a next time. 😉

 

Hey good luck on your date tomorrow! I hope you guys have a fun time. Is this your first date? Have you met him before?

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I say since you have some time, get to testing! Because the honest right answer is indeed, whatever makes you feel best. So I’d say it’s the perfect time to get to know your phero stash. If you can’t I’d honestly go Cougar across the board. But that’s based on how it makes me feel and the kinds of hits and attention I get while I’m wearing it. Levitation can give some people a somewhat ditzy vibe so just test it first. 

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Thanks Halo, I have used the levitation before, I've never noticed much. I work this weekend in the service industry so I'm going to test the cougar all weekend.

 

I wore BAM yesterday just to check out the scents on me because I've very particular about what I wear. I was going about my daily errands and got what seemed to be a huge hit. I'll have to elaborate on it on the BAM review thread. 

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On 8/22/2019 at 6:54 AM, Beccah said:

My thoughts are to stick with socials, so you don't skew your chemistry with him, with selfies from the blend you're wearing. That way you won't be feeling him a little too much & wondering if you're good enough for him, when you gotta be asking what he brings to the table. So Levitation or Lumina, maybe Cougar if you are feeling him. :) I wouldn't go with Gotcha unless things head to relationship territory. I will hopefully be taking my own advice & wearing something like I'm recommending to you, for my date tomorrow. But the new OCCOs smell soooo goood... Although I'll be meeting in a public place, not staying at his house. ;)

 

Beccah, how did the date go, and what did you end up wearing?

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I’d test BAM out a bunch more before I’d throw it into untested waters with an unknown guy. Bnol can be really great for sweet, open bonding and communication, but it can hit you hard yourself which can sometimes be counterproductive. As in YOU talk too much or get mushy in a way you would not normally be so soon. Like I said, it can definitely be amazing but it would be towards the bottom of my recommendations to wear in the situation you have described. Unless you hit it off Hugely, talk for 18 hours straight and are REALLY feeling each other, then maybe break it out towards the end. If you test Cougar and it feels like too much sass and sparkle for daytime then from what you have available I’d do Lumina during the day. They have similar vibes but Lumina is less sexy, more social. But also not really enough oomph for nighttime with what you are describing. I also Don’t get much of anything from Levitation, and I do from both DHEAS and OW, so I believe for my needs it’s not the right balance. You may be the same. People tend to super love it, or not get much at all. 

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Oh yeah Halo I wasn't suggesting using BAM while there I was just saying I had a potential hit while wearing it out. Lol

 

I agree with the cougar, and lumina, they both sound like good choices but I will test them both out the next couple weeks. I definitely tends to be sassy by nature so I'll be sure to watch out for that with the cougar. I appreciate your input a lot!

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16 hours ago, madamacabre said:

Oh yeah Halo I wasn't suggesting using BAM while there I was just saying I had a potential hit while wearing it out. Lol

 

I agree with the cougar, and lumina, they both sound like good choices but I will test them both out the next couple weeks. I definitely tends to be sassy by nature so I'll be sure to watch out for that with the cougar. I appreciate your input a lot!

Oh good! And please don’t think I’m telling you NOT to wear it. I was just saying definitely test it more. I’m a big proponent of wearing what works for you personally. Sometimes it’s guided by situation and setting but you know, realistically that’s just not always the case. I’m also basing what I say not just on my personal experience, but on all the customers I deal with ( here too but way more by email ) So go with your gut. I’d love to hear your BAM hit!

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2 hours ago, halo0073 said:

Oh good! And please don’t think I’m telling you NOT to wear it. I was just saying definitely test it more. I’m a big proponent of wearing what works for you personally. Sometimes it’s guided by situation and setting but you know, realistically that’s just not always the case. I’m also basing what I say not just on my personal experience, but on all the customers I deal with ( here too but way more by email ) So go with your gut. I’d love to hear your BAM hit!

 

I totally get what your saying and it all makes sense. I'll experiment and bring a few options with me regardless and feel out the situations. For instance I know we are all going fly fishing at one point so probably not a good time for sex pheros lol.

Dinner with everyone more social phero and evening drinking maybe a little something more provocative if that's where things seem to be going. I'm good at reading a room so if I can figure out what seems to work for me it should be easy to apply them to appropriate situations. 😊

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I say if you are naturally sassy, bring some BANG. Play to your strengths. Lol. I have nooooo idea about fly fishing. Maybe some OFF? Lol

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I know your question was about which phero choice was best, and I absolutely  would go with any of the ones the veterans here suggest, an expert I am not.  But,  don't forget about just plain smelling good!  The scent memory is a powerful thing.  You couldn't know what scents he likes (of course)  but, you know what you like on yourself.  Don't overdo it, but smelling good is an attractant, and helps define who you are (if that makes sense).  I've been mia on this board a lot lately, so I apologize if you've talked about what types of fragrances you like, because I haven't been around to read this.   Smell nice, don't scare off the fish, and have a great time!!!  (PS, if he fly fishes, he is a patient guy who is willing to show determination.  THAT is a good trait!)

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You guys are great. The OFF comment ROFL. 😂

 

And yes absolutely smelling good is huge to me. My go to scents are Carmel Musk from here, a light Amber oil and apple body spray. I also like to were phero girl on occasion under my shirt. I definitely get compliments on my smell a lot.

 

That comment about him being patient b/c he fly fishes is a good point. My friends told me he is an awesome guy so I trust their judgement. It would be really nice if we actually hit it off. 

 

I wore Cougar today to work and I think I might of over did it, I applied some this morning before work and then reapplied at around 5pm cause a guy I kinda liked came into my work so I wanted to see if I could get any hits off him. Anyway I put on kinda a lot when I reapplied in the afternoon by accident and all of a sudden I felt jittery and was almost having a hard time speaking without getting tongue tied. It was weird. I had a slight headache all, day which I am prone to, but I'm wondering if it was the pheros b/c it seemed to get a little worse after i applied it the second time and then I even started to feel a little nauseous. I ended up eating something and felt better but is this a possible reaction from Cougar? I hadn't eaten much that day so that could of been it too.

 

When I put it on this morning I put on a lot less and also had some phero girl on under my shirt and I was feeling pretty good about myself. 🤔 Could the molecules in Cougar cause the jitters? I kinda felt high but not in a good way. Or it could of been just a coincidence and low blood sugar?

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Yes that is an OD. The jittery shaky thing are most common first signs and nausea for sure means it was a little more. My worst OD ever was with Cougar and I puked for 13 hours lol. That was a very extreme case and not many people wear enough or react as strongly as I do but I definitely know others who have. So just wear less, and be wary if you are going to be drinking. If you are drinking, make sure you eat and also hydrate with water. My OD with Cougar was also a result of overzealous reapplication.  I think Cougar just doesn’t need it.

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Sorry I disappeared! Yes, our date has went well. He wants to spend more time with me. I went with my Topper boosted Cougar for our first date, Levitation poition for the second.

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7 hours ago, halo0073 said:

Yes that is an OD. The jittery shaky thing are most common first signs and nausea for sure means it was a little more. My worst OD ever was with Cougar and I puked for 13 hours lol. That was a very extreme case and not many people wear enough or react as strongly as I do but I definitely know others who have. So just wear less, and be wary if you are going to be drinking. If you are drinking, make sure you eat and also hydrate with water. My OD with Cougar was also a result of overzealous reapplication.  I think Cougar just doesn’t need it.

 

Yeah wow I actually started reading about ODing on another thread. Amazing you can have such strong reactions to something like that! Now I know to be more careful! I think I'll also avoid putting it in my cleavage again. Crazy.

 

4 hours ago, Beccah said:

Sorry I disappeared! Yes, our date has went well. He wants to spend more time with me. I went with my Topper boosted Cougar for our first date, Levitation poition for the second.

 

That's great! You'll have to let us know how that one goes too.

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I kind of didn't like Levitation for the second date. I got a weird feeling of slight dread. It was brief, but there. Not sure if it was a weird phero reaction or no. We are going boating w/ his friends & my friend this weekend, so we'll see. I hope the off feeling was due to the Levitation, although Levitation hasn't ever turned on me before. 

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17 hours ago, Beccah said:

I kind of didn't like Levitation for the second date. I got a weird feeling of slight dread. It was brief, but there. Not sure if it was a weird phero reaction or no. We are going boating w/ his friends & my friend this weekend, so we'll see. I hope the off feeling was due to the Levitation, although Levitation hasn't ever turned on me before. 

I bought a whole spray bottle of levitation a few years back and never noticed anything from it good or bad. My OD reaction to cougar at least makes me think that it works. I had a bartender invite me to come to his bar after work and that he'd buy me a drink. I didn't go cause I was tired and wasn't in the mood to drink that night but I think I'll go see him at some point. I was wearing phero girl under my shirt and cougar on my arms, neck and hair, I wonder if that had anything to do with it. He was attractive but older and while I'm cute I'm at least 20lbs over weight currently and my self esteem is in the gutter so I suspect he was just being nice and wanted someone to talk to cause it was a Monday night. Idk maybe it was a hit. Anyway I'm still experimenting. I'm gonna try something different this weekend cause I don't feel like cougar was really doing much for me. Maybe bang or lumina. 🤔

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That quite clearly was a hit. Your self esteem must be in the gutter. See, I'm the opposite. I automatically assume everyone thinks I'm great. Maybe I have too much self-esteem? Must be that Mars in Aries placement in my chart, really helps me feel sure of myself. Either way. :lol:  

In my experience, most men react well to Cougar. It's like man-nip! I have witnessed a full circle of men, surrounding me, hanging off of my every word. (Reads more dramatic than it actually was IRL, but them's the facts, baby!) So in my experience men don't invite you out to be nice. They're not like us, constantly being told to cram down their personilities and "be nice." 

Maybe you're not a big phero responder, so you don't get selfies. Doesn't mean it's not working on other people. Try the Bang though. I do like how extra nice men are when I wear it. Hope you get something from it. 

 

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Well I definitely did get an OD selfie from cougar! Lol

 

I just ordered some sandalwood and resin LAM to play with. I have a sample of sandalwood BAM and got what seemed to be a big hit wearing it so I want to see what LAM is like since it seems to be the general consensus that LAM is more social then BAM. I don't necessarily plan on using it on my weekend date situation but if it's anything like BAM then it could end up being a fave.

 

I like the light scent of the LAM and BAM as I'm sensitive to strong smells especially on myself. It's interesting b/c I will put on perfume and think it might be a bit much for those around me and yet when I ask others what they think they always comment how nice but subtle my scent it. For instance phero girl, I always do the lollipop on the torso and feel like I'm filling the room with it and yet I literally had people smelling my shirt just to smell it. Strange. Can this be the same with pheros? I always wonder how far I am actually projecting. I work as a barista so stand on the opposite side of a counter and wonder if people can even smell me... 

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I usually spray pheromones down my back so I don't accidentally OD myself on them. Maybe you could do that with perfume, so it's not in your face?

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1 hour ago, Beccah said:

I usually spray pheromones down my back so I don't accidentally OD myself on them. Maybe you could do that with perfume, so it's not in your face?

 

That's actually a really good idea. I put it on the back of my neck but never even thought about putting more of my perfume on my back as opposed to in front where it's in my face all day. Good thinking. 😉

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