heather Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) Hi Everyone, My mom is 70 and her husband of 10 years ,he is 69, he seems to be interested in a younger woman that is 55. My mom takes good care of herself and I think she is a wonderful lovely lady. I ordered DHEAS for me yesterday,but I wonder if I should give it to her to try? I also have Topper and BI that I can give to her. At 70 would it help? I let her smell my Cougar sample and she hated the smell. Any ideas of good blends for her to try to attract him? Can pheromones help older people with attraction? Edited August 8, 2013 by heather Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honeycake Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) Hi Heather, I am curious to see what the responses are. I am sure that pheros can give some type of result. On the other hand I wonder. If your mom's hubby is so infatuated with someone else, so much so that your mom knows about it- is he worth trying to keep around? I will go back to lurking now. This sounds like a grown folks who have been married before convo. Wishing you and moms luck. Edited August 8, 2013 by Honeycake Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heather Posted August 8, 2013 Author Share Posted August 8, 2013 She still loves him and wants to try anything right now. The other woman recently moved to their condo complex so I dont think they are doing anything yet. My mom said she can tell how attracted he is to her,and shes a big flirt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueBear Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) If it's to the point where she's truly worried about him losing his attraction to her for this younger woman, maybe what he needs is a foot in the butt. Sorry to be so forward, but this is how I see it. Older people are people too, and yeah, I'm sure pheros work on them just as well as the rest of us, but it just seems to me that there's something else that should be worked on between them before she pheros the situation. Edited to elaborate: I'm sure at any given time, we might find ourselves attracted to someone who isn't our partner. I think it's human nature. But I'd also say that most of us aren't going to act on it. But if she's worried that there is the distinct possibility that he might act on it, then there is something deeper going on there. Edited August 8, 2013 by BlueBear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luna65 Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 Older people are people too, and yeah, I'm sure pheros work on them just as well as the rest of us, but it just seems to me that there's something else that should be worked on between them before she pheros the situation. This is my perspective as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolly Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 I would not go with hitting him with sexual pheros at this point. I am with BlueBear.....maybe there is something deeper going on..... For instance, has he done something in the past that has caused him to lose her trust? If not, is she possibly over-reacting? Maybe it is just innocent flirtation on his part.....I think she needs to have an open and honest discussion with him and let him know that it bothers her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luna65 Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 And that's not to say pheros can't help with relationship issues but they should never be a substitute for honest communication. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolly Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 And that's not to say pheros can't help with relationship issues but they should never be a substitute for honest communication. Absolutely right. And if she needs something to inspire an open and honest conversation, maybe some TMI..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueBear Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 (edited) And that's not to say pheros can't help with relationship issues but they should never be a substitute for honest communication. Absolutely right. And if she needs something to inspire an open and honest conversation, maybe some TMI..... Right on, ladies. But an effort needs to be made in addition to the pheros. They are not the final solution. Edited August 8, 2013 by BlueBear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heather Posted August 8, 2013 Author Share Posted August 8, 2013 My mom has said he has never cheated on her.He is a nice man from what I have seen. I really think she feels insecure around this younger woman. She said she is always asking him to help her. I thought maybe the DHEAS I just ordered for myself might make her feel more youthful to herself and her husband. I never tried the DHEAS so I dont know how it feels on. Is she too old to use the OCCOs? I have OCCO White ,I just want her to feel wonderful and womanly and I always feel that way when I wear my OCCO. I am going to visit my mom this weekend,so I hope I can run into this woman and get a feel to whats going on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueBear Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 Is she too old to use the OCCOs? Pheros don't discriminate based on age. But maybe she can have a talk with her husband about going over there...? I don't think OCCO or DHEAS are going to take away her insecurity... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolly Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 (edited) Pheros don't discriminate based on age. But maybe she can have a talk with her husband about going over there...? She could also talk to the woman and ask her to back off. Edited August 9, 2013 by Dolly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goddesslynne Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 She could also talk to the woman and ask her to back off. Yeah, maybe wearing some SWS. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honeycake Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 Heather, Is this in your mom's head or has your mom's hubby actually said or done something to indicate an attraction to this woman? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StacyK Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 (edited) For instance, has he done something in the past that has caused him to lose her trust? If not, is she possibly over-reacting? Maybe it is just innocent flirtation on his part.....I think she needs to have an open and honest discussion with him and let him know that it bothers her. Yes! This! ^^^I don't think I can say something anyone else hasn't already said about the necessity of her having a talk with him... if she is sure the concern is founded. The only thing I might add is this. Why does she feel so helpless? She needs to adjust her attitude about her place and understand that she has power too. This flirty woman, who is probably one of those lazy help me ! please do this for me types and your moms husband will probably not be the only helper ( at some point he may feel like a SUCKA) anyway... She has power too, she has more than a right to speak up either calmly sit him down and have a talk, or just straight out tell him, again she needs to stay clam to be heard, look I'm ok with helping a neighbor out but she's taking advantage and I'm not comfortable with you constantly going over there. I think it's important I tell you this now before this builds up an I become angry. Seriously she does not have to be the victim she can be the bitch in charge. Edited August 9, 2013 by StacyK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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