Well, I used this for the first time on Tuesday night with a friend that is very able so to say. The usual wanting it was there for both of us, but when it came time to move past the foreplay and get down to business he was unable to rise to the occasion" so to speak. This is the first time this has happened in the year we have been seeing each other. I know he has some "stuff" going on that could have contributed but this was my first time experience with this one. I am going to give this another try again in a few weeks to see what happens.