Cycle Kitten

Cheeseburger, I totally hear you on the brain chemistry thing. His lows are only during our solo time together, when I visit him. ( he is battling all the time, what I mean is that in terms of "us", I'm the only one who witnesses the obvious days of struggle, he is pretty guarded publicly ) The three of us are rather tied up professionally so it's rare that we are all in the same place. I know the BF is lonely quite a bit since the two of us travel extensively for work. Actually we all get lonely at times, but it hits him hardest. He refuses to be medicated, I don't blame him or find fault with that, I simply try to be as understanding and supportive as I can. I hadn't realized when typing that "I'm going to go away too" could have been read differently. His meaning was that "I" (CK) will go away too, abandonment issues. Sorry for the confusion. Our time is somewhat limited together, I try to spend a few days to a week with him every 4-8 weeks. It's hard, sometimes we are on opposite sides of the country. I want nothing more than for him to be happy and overcome his depression but I know it's something he has to work through. As far as pheros, I was looking for options that may help keep the mood a little more bright and relaxed when those bad days surface. It's a vicious cycle, he gets upset and depressed for being depressed around me. Thanks so much for the insight and response. I feel for anyone who battles with anxiety and depression or cares for someone who is suffering. It can certainly weed out a garden of "friends".

My friends dog likes me just fine, she often snuggles with me and puts her butt in my face when I'm trying to sleep. But one day I was wearing Aja, no cover, and the moment I came to the door she was all over me, I didn't think anything of it, even when she started frantically licking me and wouldn't stop. I was so preoccupied with keeping her tongue away from my face that it took me awhile to realize she had settled on 3 distinct places to lick. My inner elbows and between the boobs. It was pretty embarrassing, she was uncontrollably licking the Aja off of me.

Thank you Halo, I'm going to need to start writing a cheat sheet to keep track. At least for me a calming blend is not required, I've been accused of having the patience of a saint. In hindsight, I think I've worn sexology and LFN around him a couple times, wish I had payed more attention as to if they were good or bad days. The world of pheros is obviously much more complex than the description above the "add to cart" button.

Thank you! There goes that idea. This is where I'm thinking that me wearing pheros around him to help keep things a bit more light hearted is my best option. He's a natural guy, no cologne, deodorants and all that so convincing him to wear something may be difficult. Sadly his natural body odor ( after a hard days work ) smells exactly like alpha- androstenol to me, in a good way. I have never found anyone's BO to be like able, let alone a crazy powerful aphrodisiac. He thinks it's pretty weird that I like to roll around in his stinky dirty t-shirts, I seriously act like a cat on nip nuzzling up to his armpit. Yuck! And yumm! All at once. Sorry, TMI I imagine.

Halo, thanks for pointing that out, if it's not too much trouble, could you tell me which blends contain it? My eyes hurt from sifting through the amount of info on here, I wouldn't want to risk making him feel worse, even for a moment. Thanks awwww, I admit I'm spoiled, especially when we are all together, and thankful the nearest neighbor is 1/4 mile. It's clearly not all screaming and fun though. Hope you get a meal soon

Thank you all so much for responding. Being an extreme empath the situation is also really painful for me. No one wants to see someone they love suffer. The boys don't sit down and have heart to hearts, they do more of the manly, play with motors stuff together. My husband is a very sincere sensitive guy that's willing to help in any way he can. I'm a very communicative person and talk with the BF often but he has a limited window for talking about his depression. He has suffered for a long time and is not one to seek medical attention, for anything, unless absolutely necessary. Advil has been the only medication I have ever known him to take though I recently convinced him to take some stress formula vitamins and St. John's wort. I'm hoping there is some benefit in the not too distant future. He's not suicidal but when things are bad it's hard for him to find joy in anything. It's been 14 yrs but the ex has done some serious damage to his self worth and he is a very harsh critic of himself. I've never dealt so personally with someone suffering from more than mild, occasional depression. I know that there is little you can do but be supportive, that trying to "help" can sometimes backfire. I am a very love oriented being, very affectionate and nurturing, compassionate almost to a fault. ( leaving the sexual aspect to the side for this but I also have a very large appetite physically, I've seen the white flag of surrender from them simultaneously ) I'm not pushy, and take whatever feels right at the time as far as intimacy goes, but they are both aware that I'm always "up" so to speak. With the BF, the depression can cause some serious dry spells. He comments often that he has never known anyone like me, but he is referring to both the physical and non physical love. He says he's learning with me, I don't think true affection/ love is something he has ever had. The ex had an agenda, career, house, 2.5 kids....when he didn't fit the mold she cast him aside. Though he has never said so plainly, I do believe that he would be more comfortable in a truly loving traditional relationship, I can see the internal struggle with me being married. You won't find two more reasonable and caring people than myself and my husband. The BF knows he is a welcome member of our household, he just can't seem to process it. Even though I know it will break my heart, I've made it very clear to the BF that all I want for him is to have happiness, even if that means he finds it with someone else. I'm not looking for a phero miracle, I'm level headed, I know that ultimately it's up to him to help himself. But if a little magic and chemistry could aid him in being a little more at ease, less stressed out, I'm willing to try. Most of the time I have him laughing and playing, something no one else ever sees in him. But when the storm hits the seas are rough. I have A bottle of OW on the way, thanks to the forum and everyone's posts I though it would be a good choice. I will admit that I've worn Horny with success during a dry spell or two but I'm really more concerned with his general well being than the physical. I like the idea of the wax melts, I actually make soy candles, I always make sure the BF is stocked when we are apart since he likes them. Wonder if I could simply add some mood elevating pheros to his candles when I pour them.

I originally found LP because my mom is dating again after a messy divorce and pheros were intriguing to me. Thanks to google and LPMP I'm now a bit obsessed with researching pheros in general and could use a little help/ advice for myself. Here it goes, all out. My hubby and I are over 40, 20 incredible years together and I have a boyfriend in his 50's. We are all friends, everything is honest and open, no secrets. I never dreamed I would be in a poly relationship but after 4 years of the worst sexual tension imaginable between the now BF and I the three of us took the plunge into what has been our relationship of three years. Generally speaking everything is great. The trouble is the BF suffers from anxiety and depression,being witness to the bad days can tear my heart out. He is also the only one that struggles with the social fears of acceptance in regards to our relationship. He has a bit of baggage from the ex wife, and some abandonment issues. Sometimes he subconsciously tries to push me away. I'm sure that some of that comes from having very traditional upbringing and views about relationships and an internal struggle with being the "third". None of us ever planned or imagined this would happen. When his depression gets the best of him he makes comments about how I'm going to go away too. He is a drear friend to my hubby and I love him very much, although there are no certainties in relationships, I don't see myself going anywhere, away from him, unless he decides to leave. What started out as friendship and the most animalistic, primal attraction I have ever experienced has turned into a very compassionate and loving relationship. My husband and I were both raised with good ol traditional values but as adults we have learned that love doesn't necessarily follow rules. The advice part: I would welcome any thoughts on what pheros I could wear that may help ease his anxiety without losing the sexual spark that exists between us. This is a very sincere request and I would appreciate casting personal judgements aside.

I just ordered my second FB of Aja. From the very first time I wore it the fragrance on me was a sweet, beautiful honey and strong enough to be worn alone. It never got smutty on me. A month or so ago it took on a faint plastic smell, very faint, almost no scent at all so I thought perhaps it simply got old. My current bottle is back to its sweet self again, I can't pinpoint what could have been going on with my body chemistry when I last tried it but I'm happy we are getting along again and ordered more. Reactions to Aja have always been pleasant, I like the way I feel while wearing it, feminine and pretty, and I have a hard time not sniffing myself to the point of public embarrassment. I've gotten lots of compliments, women I've just met come in for second and third hugs not wanting to let go of me and remarking on how good I smell. I went to my local grocery recently, I shop there quite often, and had a fun hit with a middle aged man who works in the produce section. While getting one of those produce bags for some lettuce the twisted ties lept to the floor by my feet, this man came from thin air to retrieve them and fix the dispenser. After he finished he stayed next to me, quite close, while I selected my lettuce and complemented my outfit. I said thank you and he continued to stay next to me then asking if I made my clothes. I explained that a friend had designed and made them,his response was " I was thinking that they didn't look like something you could buy in a store." I admit that I sometimes stand out in a rural area, but this was far from the most " creative" clothing I have worn in this store, it was actually a pretty simple skirt and tank and this gentalman has never approached me before though I probably see him 2-3 times a week. It was cute and sweet. My normal experience with men and compliments on clothing is the typical " you look nice". I wear mostly handmade clothing ( simple modern yoga fairy- full on circus/ sideshow ) from small designers and have never had a guy notice or comment on my non-commercial wardrobe.

I've had a bottle of UN LFN oil for about six months and decided to give it a go last night. A couple dabs in the cleavage and crease of elbows covered with a light scent, MarcJacobs Honey since my hubby likes it. We are over 40, together 20 years, and have a great life in all arenas but we seldom go out. We both have demanding jobs and spend more time away from each other than most so we tend to hibernate at home. We went to one of our favorite brew pubs last night, ordered a beer and an appetizer at the bar and when a waitress delivered our order my husband pointed out that she gave me the look over, in a good way, like I was food or something. There was also a band, 3 young men that could possibly have been young enough to be our offspring. Our position was pretty close to the band and I had gone up to sign up for their mailing list. I don't typically give young men a second glance but I found the drummer to be quite attractive and then noticed him looking at me and smiling. I was not feeling particularly attractive yesterday, frumpy even, but that put a bit of spring in my step. We left just after the band finished their set and decided to go to the strip club down the st. ( gasp, yep I said that ) We really don't get out much, and have few choices living in a pretty rural area but to be honest I met my hubby in a club. When I was young and living in NY I worked as a dancer, along with several other jobs to make the rent so I guess we were feeling a bit nostalgic. Dive club surrounded by Amish farms, 3 customers, 3 male staff and 4 dancers. A strip club is a place where it's their job to be interested in the clientele and there were few to chose from but the girls were oddly curious about me and chatty. If you changed the setting and added some clothing it would have been like having a conversation with friends at a restaurant. I eventually divulged to one of the girls that I had worked in a club 20 years ago and she tried to convince me to go on the stage and take over her set. It was late for us to be awake when we got home and we were really tired but it wasn't long after snuggling up that my hubby got a dominant burst of energy. I rarely see 4 am at the end of day anymore, so all in all a strange and satisfactorily exhausting night. This morning the hubby told me he couldn't stop looking at me all night, which was super sweet considering the 4 younger naked girls at the club and I was wearing black yoga pants and a simple top barely dressier than a t shirt. Odd night out, I know, but I thought I would share, can't wait to see what reactions may occur in a more "normal" setting. I've really enjoyed reading everyones reviews and experiences.

Thank you Rose, I wish I had discovered the forum sooner, there is so much info in here it's like a novel you can't put down. I had completely forgotten that I was wearing it, I'm generally excited about any packages that arrive and immediately need to explore whatever goodies I've purchased. I had not planned on leaving the house and perhaps have also been a little dismissive about wearing pheros being new to them. Maybe horny helped with the sudden need to get out and about. In hindsight it's time for me to add a few things to my personal journal, and include whatever I may be wearing to my entries in the future. Question: as far as sharing reactions and experiences where is the proper place to post? In the reviews section? I'm trying to decipher the where's and how to's of being on a forum.

Thank you, I am a complete newbie in the realm of forums. So thank you also to whomever put my post where it belongs, I did a search on "horny" and somehow didn't find this discussion. Perhaps the guy was just a creep, but he seemed like he didn't have much control of himself, I usually have a good sense of people, maybe the combo of cops and his inner creep was like gas and matches. I've played with making perfumes and studied aromatherapy for quite a long time now but have only ventured Into pheros over the last year when I found LP.

Hi All. I'm new here on the forum, and looking for some other opinions/ experiences with this fragrance. I'm very partial to earthy, slightly sweet scents so the ingredient list for this was a perfect concoction. Then add cops and Aja, I had to try it. I really enjoy this and it seems to work well with me as most incense type aromas do, and it is quite strong and long lasting. I can't detect the cops at all as far as smell goes. Although it smells nothing like baby powder to me the men in my life seen to make comments about baby powder when I wear it. The BF never comments on perfume so I guess baby powder is better than nothing. I can't determine if there is any reaction to the cops or Aja from him, but it seems possible. Now for the kinda creepy bit: I decided to go to a local restaurant and bar, I wanted an adult beverage and to get out of the house. My usual crew of people I spend time with all had other things going, it was a last minute decision, so I decided to venture out on my own. At this point I've completely forgotten that I had applied horny earlier in the day. A young man joins me at the bar, pays for my beer and starts a conversation. Everything from occupational info, kids, his ex wife, on the table. It was a reasonably intelligent and decent conversation, I also made sure he knew I was unavailable. Somewhere in all that he started to get really touchy feely, running his hand on my leg and such, I told him I was uncomfortable and asked him to please refrain from touching me that it was a little creepy. The short version is that I finished my beer and left the bar, he walked me out, and became so much of a handful at my car that another man in the parking lot came to my rescue. I didn't feel threatened by him but it was really strange and I will always be grateful to the stranger that helped me end the evening. Perhaps I should have done more than try to politely push him away but I'm not the kind of girl who would knee a guy unless I really think I am in danger. It was the morning after that I remembered slathering on "horny" as I had recently received it and was so excited to wear it. I would love to hear anyone's review of the scent or experiences,