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  1. My boyfriend and I have gotten back together and now he has been invited to a party of some bloke I really don't know well. I nearly left the country for my home a week or so ago so its important to me that things go smoothly. Its a house party and supposed to be attended by fairly high brow people. I don't know a single person attending being a foreigner here. I don't have popularity potion (its supposed to be on its way, Goddess willing) and I doubt it'll reach here by tomorrow. This is my first phero experience at a party and being a newbie I have no idea what to reach for. I want to use something which promotes sociability but also something sexy as inspiring jealousy in one's man (and he hardly ever gets jealous) by being hit on by others is always a good thing, especially as things have been rocky lately. Plus I would really like to make some friends as I speak to 2 real people (and know 2 people here) the whole week so it would be nice to finally get some friendly interaction! The party is this weekend.... advice please oh experienced ones....
  2. Please let us know how your tests went!!
  3. I am referring to both, firstly that roles change in the public dimension as in the Sichuan province. But secondly behind closed doors, no matter what country you are in there will be people with alternate desires who may well be experimenting in private spaces so that only insiders will be aware. Case in point, when I was doing research in the African outback I became close with a group of women in their 20s, we ended up sharing stories and they loved to gossip. The ethnic group which the village people belonged to was very patriarchal. The village was minimal with only an hour's worth of electricity and water if we were lucky so not modern at all. The ladies told me about the son of one of the chief's in the village. During the day he was an important man. He had two wives yet apparently did not enjoy being with them. Instead he went and visited his Mistress with whom he liked to be gagged using a woman's dress, tied up with cloth, forced to lie at her feet and take orders, physical and verbal abuse and much more. These women had never heard of the terms that are used in the West with regards to such activities yet the man in question definitely had what we would consider to be submissive tendencies!
  4. Its a hilarious idea but it sounds like in practice it might well create confusing signals! Anyway I am sure it will go well as long as your sister remains cool, calm and confident. Confidence more than pheros will help her to make her mark. I wish her good luck, have a wonderful time and let us know how it goes.
  5. Let us know how it goes! Especially which pheros you chose and what effect the pheros had on your tame colleagues...well if they start drinking maybe the mood might change...
  6. Maybe it is, but just more well hidden than in the Western world and after all unless you are aware of such practices even in the West you may remain oblivious to them and in my experience people's preferences are diverse no matter where you go. In some places in China, it seems that the accepted norm is that women are in charge. Whilst in Chengdu, Sichuan, I went out with a Chinese couple we knew to a karaoke club and met various of their friends. I was told by all those women that the men did the cooking and cleaning as well as earned their living.
  7. I understand the role of the alpha androstenol and the beta, also the cops but would be grateful if someone could explain what the following pheros are and what effects they have: Androstenone, Androstenol, and Androsterone.
  8. Thanks Luna, great review.... your salacious story sold it to me.... next order I'll get the UN, I fear the cheese but it sounds worth a little gouda.
  9. I've been telling my best male friend about my phero experiences and he is completely sold. He is planning on coming to the USA for xmas and wants to order some. He asked me to seek out male advice. He is searching for two potions: 1) For work: He is in business development, trade deals and sales, he needs to inspire trust, exhibit confidence but also inspire men and women to want to do business with him and ultimately say yes. 2) For play time with ladies: He wants to attract Dominant women who will wear the trousers whilst he is the beta male that pampers them and caters to their whims and fancies. He finds that he has to be very Alpha in the work place so prefers to be beta outside of work hours so attract strong, confident females who will lead the show and be assertive with him. I'm looking for advice for him to pass on....thanks guys..
  10. Thanks ladies.... anyway I have until February, when I return to Europe as my visa expires, to decide what to do...but in retrospect a crush is a good distraction but not a solution and perhaps a smoke screen to finding a solution in my actual situation... The support is appreciated
  11. JOC that sounds amazing.....I do miss our little cafés, no need to drink coffee to enjoy, wine, water or tea whatever your choice, cafés are mostly places to have a good chat and watch the world go by... anyway as for pup it seems like he'll never have the chance (and neither will I) as I'm off the market again, I keep on making and breaking up with my boyfriend -its complicated and lets hope it lasts as we're due for another round until I go back to Europe next year.... so the saga of the puppy boy ends but it was a good distraction while the going was rough and I needed some dreamworthy eye candy...
  12. Thanks ladies. On the other hand there is no law against taking a brief personal training course and getting a feel for the lay of the land...
  13. Thanks Dolly, for your great advice. No more gym for me this week, tired out but when I next have the opportunity I'll do as you suggest. Next week's early week session may be hard as he trains with a whole group of 5 men and I don't think I have the nerve to break into that testosterone nation! but when I next see him alone...
  14. See now that takes guts Dolly! I admire that, but I'm not going to embarrass myself in front of all the people in the gym by doing something too blatant, you have to see those people weekly. In fact I'm completely at a loss and thinking I need to give up, ignore the hell out of pup and focus my energies on something more productive in life. The men here are just simply not friendly at all, even the other trainers don't say hello or smile unless you throw them out a huge hello and massive smile. I'm thinking I'm not made for Canada, I miss Europe too much! I'm swimming in unknown waters here. I asked another trainer for a piece of equipment and tried to initiate conversation, he gave me the piece on equipment and then just left. I'm wondering are men overly afraid of sexual harassment suits here? Something is definitely going on. The reason I was thinking of getting personal training is because in fact I rarely see the trainers talk to any females in the gym unless they are training them. The problem is, also, I ruined things single-handedly. I was the one acting cool in the beginning when he was following me around like a puppy but since I did not respond now he is completely ignoring me. I don't even know where I stand anymore. I'll be exercising and he'll come and exercise right next to me, even maybe briefly check out my reflection in the mirror but then to my face completely ignore me as if I was not there so when am I even going to 'get a smile in' if he won't even look in my general direction? He'll only look when I'm busy with an exercise and so I can't really respond in any way. I've been trying to be more friendly with the other trainers with whom he is friends but even they are not very responsive, they are a pretty unfriendly bunch, always trying to give off the tuff vibe- the gym vibe in this sports club is not great, compared to the ones I've been to before, in Europe, the trainers were falling all over themselves to help the women in the club even if they were not personally training them. I'm wondering what the hell is going on as I am far from ugly and I exercise a lot so its not as if I'm an eyesore in tight gym clothes. So desperate am I that I even had a guy friend from back home check out my outfit on skype and he thought it was definitely worth drooling over. I don't know where I am going wrong. I thought I knew how to play the game, but that was in Europe, here in Canada I just end up feel like an idiot!!!!! I am definitely going to wear open windows next time until my popularity potion arrives. And Heart and Soul won't be here until Xmas. But I feel like I screwed myself over as I'm getting 100% cold shoulder now and don't know how to break this awful ice anymore. To be honest I also fear that if I say something and he he is super unfriendly to me, it will be hard to go to the gym each week as I would have to see him time and time again. Ahhh yes the fear of the big R, rejection!
  15. I saw him again but was just simply too nervous to make any verbal contact. On the other hand he is a personal trainer so I'm thinking maybe I should inquire about having a few lessons with him or maybe that is too contrived after all is said and done.....any thoughts?
  16. Tyvey you are gutsy darling for just doing it that one time and the point is taken, thank you for the advice. I know you're right: men love to have their ego massaged and even better if its by a dark haired European stranger of a lady....I'm getting my balls out and packing them in my gym bag for next time LOL
  17. Merci! C'est une très belle region le Bordeaux, mon père est accro du vin et y va assez souvent pour acheter direct des vineries...en faite je suis moitié anglaise, un quart française ( mes grand-parents vécurent à Neuilly) et l'autre quart: si je te chante 'le plat pays qui est le mien' tu vas sûrement deviner !!! Ici en Amérique du Nord, quand on me demande, je n'explique pas ce dernier petit quart, car ça m'étonne toujours mais pas mal de gens connaissent nullement ce pays! Moi aussi j'ai beaucoup bougée. Je suis née à Ottignies et puis on a déménagé à BXL, en suite je suis partie à Londres, après j'ai vécu à Deauville, Normandie et puis Paris, après Oxford et maintenant je suis au Canada.....et j'ai le mal du pays!!!! J'ai passé de 0-18 ans au pays de Brel, moules-frites et Magritte donc c'est mon chez moi et ça me manque...L'Europe en générale me manque terriblement, c'est tellement différent ici: la culture, les gens, la bouffe, tout!
  18. Luna someone would get not only a broken hand but also be kneed in the groin if they tried any funny stuff like groping. In Europe groping is also considered completely immoral. Groping wherever you are is wrong which is why I started my sports in the first place, to learn to defend myself and have the strength to do it with. Albeit a male friend of mine was groped on the tube in London by a woman passenger and he was ecstatic about it for weeks, telling anyone and everyone who would listen! Tyvey you are very gutsy is all I can say.... You've got more bollocks than all the men I know put together! I imagine that you must have caused quite the commotion. I was thinking it would be hilarious if I did just that: gave him 'The look' at the same time slowly licking my lips, obviously in front of his friends but then again his ego might explode and I'm not sure I want to do that unless I have to. I'd rather try some subtle techniques first.... JOC you must have had a great time: Switzerland is such a lovely relaxed place, Geneva is a beautiful city and Italy is gorgeous. Italian men are amongst the most outgoing with women of all the Europeans I'd say. Italian women are also very gregarious!
  19. LMAO!!!!! That would be such a cheeky thing to ask!!!! Love it! But don't think I have the gall to do that! JOC where did you travel? Please don't feel bad, men will approach but they expect you to also do some legwork plus with language barriers it might be hard....but the good thing is if they are interested they will do some blatant looking and talking which makes it easier to 'follow a lead' unlike here..... arggghhh!
  20. Tu écris super bien pour une Americaine Tyvey!! Je pense que tu veux dire <<comme tu as pu deviné, je n'ai pas d'accents sur mon clavier>>. En français WMD= ADM armes de destruction massive.... voilà on apprend toujours quelque chose sur le forum ;-)
  21. Mademoiselle, tu es française? D'où viens-tu en France? En tout cas, ça fait plaisir de trouver une autre francophone sur le forum et je te souhaite un très joyeux noël en famille et parmis amis....
  22. Thanks for all the answers! No I dont have Heart and Soul, pity as from the reviews it seems like just the ticket to talky talky land. I miss European men and their friendliness, it makes things so much easier! No 'ins' today to strike up conversation. Why do the men here make it so bloody difficult???????? Today I went to the gym dressed to kill, tight trousers, tight top ad sexeam to show off assets. Of course I also had on pheros: this time I tried Lace. When I get there puppy is training with a group of 5 guys, deadlifting etc. Talk about intimidating. I'm used to male-dominated areas, on my Uni sport team in Europe I was the only female but when you are not part of the group, 5 men and a barbell can seem like a troop of gorillas, competing silverbacks. I noticed pup doing that annoying thing again, looking at me when he thinks I'm not looking. Frankly the European men may come across to North American women as rude but I find it more honest to look and be open about it rather than sneaking peeks and then pretending not to. European men are so much more open with their attentions and give you opportunities to talk to them or they just throw a hello out. Men here just don't do that so I have nothing to work with.... Anyway I think pup is a part time student and part time trainer at the gym from what I overheard of the conversation, and the gorillas were all trainers due to train their clients post work out: yes espionage is a strong point of mine heehee... After the gorillas were done pup went to train some bloke, I passed him on the stairway and he did that typical Canadian thing I felt like screaming: I try to make eye contact but instead of making eye contact he's surreptitiously looking at the reflection of my derrière in the window, I know because I saw where his gaze was headed. Anyway the Lace did work its magic, later I needed to move a barbell to do lunges for said derrière and another trainer (not pup it should have been him) suddenly offered to help me move it. Two mins later another guy is offering to unload some weights from a machine I want to use. After the work out I stopped off at the pharmacy to buy some cream for my frozen hands. I started talking to the lady at the check out about how this is my first Canadian winter and I am scared of the extreme cold which I have never experienced before and she suddenly gets all concerned and tells me how I need to look after myself and giving me all sorts of advice even to the extent that she leaves the check out to show me hand cream for my hands and she noticed they were looking very dry from the cold! So the lace worked, just not in the way I would have liked... I'll just have to wait again until next time and hope he is training alone as at least it gives me somewhat of an opportunity rather than having to permeate into the testosterone-oozing silverback club.
  23. I don't want to claim to be a phero expert like others on this forum who are long term users albeit I've been utilising them for a while now and thanks to the advice proffered on this forum together with trial and error, I have come to some basic conclusions that I think could hopefully be useful to those who have just started using pheros. Much of this has already been said but I just wanted to synthesize. And hope others will also offer some good advice. 1) What works for someone else on their target might not work for you: -everyone's body chemistry is different, younger women generally need less cops than older women whose bodies produce less. For example, I heard cougar was great, so I ordered it but on me it seems to scare younger men (as if I came on too strong) whereas when I use it around older men, they have complimented me on my eyes, hair etc. So that leads me to the second point 2) Every man is different, some produce more testosterone than others. Younger men respond better it seems to lesser amounts of cops on me, whilst older men to more cops. In my individual experience, if I wear too much cops about my boyfriend who is 27 he often becomes somewhat aggressive whereas the same amount with an older gentleman I know had him swooning all over me but not in an aggressive way. I just need to use a few subtle swipes of cops around my boyfriend and that gets him going and that works far better than layering on the cops. So bottom line: not only your natural chemistry but also that of your target will determine what you should be using and how much. 3) Pheromone usage should be decided upon according to context: -there are many warnings about not using cops in dangerous, stressful or certain work situations. I read one warning by Rosebud (?) about how she wore a cop heavy blend to work to affect her target man, since she works in a hospital performing surgery this was a fiasco as her man, a surgeon could not concentrate on the task at hand and kept on dropping surgical instruments. I have read yet others say that cops in public places can cause men to behave inappropriately or aggressively. -I have also learned the hard way. I wore a cop heavy blend one holiday when my boyfriend and I were travelling with heavy cases on train. Big mistake. He is usually a little stressed with travel but that day he turned into an obsessive aggressive guy. I'd never seen him that way. He kept on complaining, shouting how we'd be late, getting upset and stressed about minor details. It was horrible. The next time we travelled I put on Lace an EST blend. He was another man altogether, he carried my bags from our door step to the final destination, he was caring, chivalrous and calm. 4) Cops will cause other women to react negatively often, so don't wear a coppy blend when with older women, girlfriends or if your work place is mostly female. Once when wearing blatant invitation on the subway, in fact quite recently, going out on a dinner date, a woman in her 20s started to pick a fight with me, it was bizarre. These are a few pointers I hope will prove useful...
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