Hi there! New here but not a newbie to pheromones

[pheromancer]

Hi everyone! I am not new to pheromones, although I did take a long hiatus, but now I am here to dive deeper and to document my experiences, if that's alright with y'all.  

 

A little about me: I am in my early 30s, bisexual, currently engaged to a woman who has a son that is 11 years old. 

 

If someone can guide me on where to post my experiences/trials on the following subjects/topics? I'll be most grateful 🙏🏻

 

1. Pheromones that can help with a harmonious home. My step son has ADHD, ODD, mood disorders, etc. If he doesn't get his way 100% of the day/time, all hell breaks loose... I've purchased Balm Bomb to see if testing this out would be help. 

2. Pheromones to spice back my relationship with my S.O. We're both femmes, I would say... Maybe I'm more chapstick haha. I'm her first girl and I hope only. 🙃 But with world events, tension with raising a kid who is very difficult (to say the least) together, our bedroom has been very stale. A lot of mental blocks between us so it's been hard to feel excited about things.. 

3. Social situations. 

I used to be the life of the party—people always noticed me and complimented me. However, since settling into a committed relationship, I've become more reserved. My partner struggles with feelings of inadequacy and jealousy, so I avoid being too social because I don't want her to think I'm flirting when I'm just being friendly. Looking back, maybe I was flirting without realizing it.

I've also gained some weight and haven’t felt motivated to dress up much. It's ironic because my partner is incredibly gorgeous—people often comment on her looks, and I'm sure I'm the "reacher" in our relationship, appearance-wise. Sometimes, I feel insecure standing next to her, but she's mine, so I don’t feel the need to impress others. Those who know me usually say I have a great personality, so I know I'm not unattractive. Still, to me, my partner is a 13/10, while I'm maybe a solid 6.5 or 7.5 on good days.

My goal is to build more confidence in both myself and her. I also wouldn’t mind being noticed a bit more, so I’m not completely overshadowed by her. She thinks I’m amazing and attractive, but I’d like others to acknowledge that more too, for her sake as well as mine. I want her to be proud as I am of having her on my arm. 

4. Pheromones and Cycle? Not sure where to read more, I tried searching, but how it affects us when we wear mones and that. Typically I try not to wear any during because I've always had bad reactions etc. This recent time, I tried wearing Cuddle bunny, and I cried a whole day before my cycle started. Then during I tried wearing Queen Bee, my partner didnt react well either. I think the EST makes me very emotional and I am already a crier but ... that was excessive haha 

 

My arsenal: 
Balm Bomb, Swimming with Sharks, Queen Bee, Tipping the Velvet, LMF, Charisma. I still have from the past purchases, Love potion (pink, black, red), Squeaky Clean (I love this on how it makes me feel and how it smells), Cuddle bunny, T.M.I., AMMO, molecule C, (from andriotics). 

 

Any tips, like pheromones that work better for certain personality types, sapphic things, etc would be much appreciated. 

 

Thank you in advance! 

-Pheromancer 

[raydee8_love]

I recommend Treasured Hearts. This has worked much better in all my relationships I use this so much 

i need two full sprays a year, could probably use 3 a year

i have found that Charisma has  backfired a few times

and Mother’s little helper works 

[RosesArePink]

Treasured Hearts is wonderful! I use it both at work and for my relationship. You could also try Girl/Girl (or is it G2?) or Perfect Match for helping out your relationship. Lumina might also be a nice choice for when you are out (or home 🙃). I find it makes people warm and friendly but not over the top giddy/flirty like some of the socials.

[Mila]

For the bedroom, maybe try AJA? You can get a trial to see what it does

[RosesArePink]

And maybe try Gotcha with your girlfriend. When I wear it around a bi friend she becomes much more touchy feely and pays more attention to me, so I think it's worth trying. I know it works great on men.

[pheromancer]

On 8/11/2024 at 5:42 PM, raydee8_love said:

I recommend Treasured Hearts. This has worked much better in all my relationships I use this so much 

i need two full sprays a year, could probably use 3 a year

i have found that Charisma has  backfired a few times

and Mother’s little helper works 

 

On 8/11/2024 at 6:37 PM, RosesArePink said:

Treasured Hearts is wonderful! I use it both at work and for my relationship. You could also try Girl/Girl (or is it G2?) or Perfect Match for helping out your relationship. Lumina might also be a nice choice for when you are out (or home 🙃). I find it makes people warm and friendly but not over the top giddy/flirty like some of the socials.

 

Ahh thank you both! I will look into acquiring Treasured Hearts for sure!  

 

Raydee8_love, I'm a bit scared of Charisma backfiring too. Like if people would think I have the 'seeking out attention' vibes? Definitely interested in getting Mothers little helper too! 

 

RosesArePink, I think Queen Bee is the new G2, I liked it the first time I tried it. The other two times, I was on my cycle and it didn't bode well for me. My S.O. was on defense with everything I said and I was in tears. Haven't thought of Perfect match! 

I just love the way Squeaky Clean smells with Lumina, again can't wear it on my cycle, but otherwise. Ah, it smells so good 🥰

On 8/12/2024 at 8:40 AM, RosesArePink said:

And maybe try Gotcha with your girlfriend. When I wear it around a bi friend she becomes much more touchy feely and pays more attention to me, so I think it's worth trying. I know it works great on men.

 

I'll put this on my list too! Thank you  

 

On 8/11/2024 at 7:15 PM, Mila said:

For the bedroom, maybe try AJA? You can get a trial to see what it does

Ooo I know the Queen Bee one I got, Catarina, had AJA in it too 

[raydee8_love]

I do use Charisma very often usually twice a week. But I have had it backfire, it’s best in groups. One on one I prefer Treasured Hearts, Levitation, Heart And Soul or Perfect Match.

I Have had such good results with PM that this year I decided to get a spray. It works really well at small get togethers and dinners. 

[hedgehog]

Ooh, Heart and Soul is a great one, and one that doesn’t get recommended a lot but is one of my all time faves. I like that it’s “sweet” and fuzzy and warm, but a bit less intense then Gotcha (I have gotten the weirdest reactions with Gotcha sometimes, like people following me around like a duckling) or Perfect Match (very close and bond-y, but sometimes in a cryfest kind of way, at least for me.) Just all around warm fuzziness.  

[pheromancer]

On 8/14/2024 at 5:57 PM, raydee8_love said:

I do use Charisma very often usually twice a week. But I have had it backfire, it’s best in groups. One on one I prefer Treasured Hearts, Levitation, Heart And Soul or Perfect Match.

I Have had such good results with PM that this year I decided to get a spray. It works really well at small get togethers and dinners. 

I'm a little scared of Charisma backfiring as my lady has the impression that I need to be the center of attention? I don't want to irk her. We're going to a party with her friends this weekend, I want to make a good impression as we don't really go out with her friends much.

 

Debating on Charisma or LFM. >_<

 

I think my girl responds well to LFM. The times I've worn it, she is a lot more cuddly and sweeter. She was more combative when I wore Queen Bee. 

 

On 8/14/2024 at 6:39 PM, hedgehog said:

Ooh, Heart and Soul is a great one, and one that doesn’t get recommended a lot but is one of my all time faves. I like that it’s “sweet” and fuzzy and warm, but a bit less intense then Gotcha (I have gotten the weirdest reactions with Gotcha sometimes, like people following me around like a duckling) or Perfect Match (very close and bond-y, but sometimes in a cryfest kind of way, at least for me.) Just all around warm fuzziness.  

Would you recommend this over treasured hearts? Or what would you say the differences are? 

[hedgehog]

I’d try both.  I find Treasured Hearts less “sweet and bond-y” than Heart and Soul - I use Treasured Hearts for everyone but Heart and Soul when with good friends.  But everyone experiences pheros differently and I’ve also read reviews from people that said Treasured Hearts made their partners extra nest-y. 
 

Heart and Soul also is more EST-heavy, if I recall correctly, and I tend to like EST heavy blends.  So a lot of it comes down to preference and what works for you and your partner.