Indigo Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 I've been enjoying flirting with a colleague, so far I have found far far away to work well with him. It seems to inspire respect, he seems a little mesmerised, attracted but respectful. I was wondering what other pheros would do this? I tried CB but found surprisingly that he seemed less respectful and more leery. I was thinking of trying LFM but the only version I have contains COPS and I've have noticed it's best for evening not office wear as men seem to look at me like I am sex on legs, which is good, but respect is vital in a professional arena. I went to send him the message that I'm sexy but a Goddess who must be respected. If the phero causes bonding that is a big plus. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueBear Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 LFM all the way!! I wear mine to work all the time. (but mine is not copped.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goddesslynne Posted April 2, 2013 Share Posted April 2, 2013 When I read the thread title, I immediately thought of LFM, too!! What about SS4W? I find that to be fine at work, sans cops. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo Posted April 2, 2013 Author Share Posted April 2, 2013 SS4W it is then! maybe in sneaky clean but my LFM is way amped with cops so maybe OTT for work. Thanks for the advice! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cchristys Posted April 3, 2013 Share Posted April 3, 2013 (edited) Wow, I think I'm going to have to get one of those for the guy I really like at work. I tried Cougar today...didn't work on him. Edited April 3, 2013 by cchristys Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fluffygirl12 Posted April 3, 2013 Share Posted April 3, 2013 Totally LFM !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
halo0073 Posted April 3, 2013 Share Posted April 3, 2013 I agree LFM is exactly what you need. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JOC Posted April 3, 2013 Share Posted April 3, 2013 LFM gets my vote too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo Posted April 5, 2013 Author Share Posted April 5, 2013 Thank goodness I did not LFM him because my LFM is amped with cops. As it is SS4W scared him; see below. I SS4W-ed him in sneaky clean. However I think I need to take it down a notch. My modus vivendi is: he is sexy, I am sexy, we work together at the office, why not have some fun, flirting and making the most of it. He is a sweet, gentle, kind sort of sexy guy, which actually gets me going because he seems to be a little subservient and always be wanting to please me which I love. He goes out of his way for me. I love a guy who knows how to make a woman feel like a Princess/Goddess. But today it felt like wearing SS4W I was too much for him: it turned him on and then frightened him away. I am not suggesting we bang each other's brain's out (only in our minds) because I know he has a wife and I have a partner but a little wetting of the appetite (and more) and then using that appetite to eat at home (sometimes literally), can bring some extra fire into the kitchen and make what I'm cooking chez moi extra delectable. Plus it makes going to the office a lot more interesting. But today after about 15 minutes of talking he really seemed to take fright, it was like there was a warning sign all over me: danger lady And then he appeared to get cold feet. I was telling him about a project which I am working on, that I thought he'd offer to help me with but instead of saying he'd love to - as he usually does- he started telling me that he is really pressed for time lately and has a lot on his plate, has not been seeing enough of his child etc etc. Basically taking the conversation to a place far far away from the lovely lilt of our usual repartee. All of these factors which he mentioned (stress at work, not seeing his child etc. ) may be true, but normally he'd overlook that for me and yes normally he does me special favours but today he was hinting at how he can't do me any favours any more . I am thinking next week when I'll see him again I either go phero naked (oh but I hate that) or I use heart and soul with no cops and see whether he comes back around to being my sweet little admirer again. I don't want to wear anything with cops lest he take fright again! Bottom line is if he were a real man, he'd not be scared by my Grace Jones attitudinal tendencies but since this is the most fun I have at work all week I want to make the lollipop last so I can lick it a little longer and savour the sweetness just a touch more. But today when I SS4Wed him he seemed to freak out and get cold feet. At first he was really eyeing up my breasts (were I had placed some of the Sneakyclean), like they had committed a crime or something.... so clearly he was attracted but then when I tried to be flirty with him he sort of distanced himself from the conversation and started mentioning his 2 year old kid. I was being a bit ballsy because SS4W makes me that way, it makes me act a bit like I know I'm sexy and you want it. I think maybe he got Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bruiseviolet Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Maybe cougar or leather is worth a try Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo Posted April 5, 2013 Author Share Posted April 5, 2013 Maybe later, these are good ideas thanks bruiseviolet but right now I want him to relax, he is a serious type in that he does not mind flirting but he seems to feel uncomfortable when things stray from work or in a direction where he feels too out of control. I want him to be calm and feel he can trust me, and make him want to take care of me. I believe betas are best for that inspiring that.....although I'm no expert that's a question for Madame Luna. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
halo0073 Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 The most beta-fying phero to me is androstadienone. Think TeddyBB, B2, Balm Bomb or MLH. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo Posted April 6, 2013 Author Share Posted April 6, 2013 cheers for the tips halo but I don't own any of those Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dolphindolls2 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 When I read the thread title, I immediately thought of LFM, too!! What about SS4W? I find that to be fine at work, sans cops. I use SS4W at work all the time and its usually a good one for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 maybe I applied too much..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calii Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 He is attracted to you because of the pheros and your actions,while you might be able seduce him,no pheros will make him respect you. The opposite may become true,especially since he is married and knows about your partner...he could come to resent you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goddesslynne Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 He is attracted to you because of the pheros and your actions,while you might be able seduce him,no pheros will make him respect you. The opposite may become true,especially since he is married and knows about your partner...he could come to resent you. This is true. I don't have any problem with a little innocent flirting, Indigo, but it sounds like you're on a mission. If your relationship has room for this, that's fine, but you have no way of knowing if his marriage does. Honestly, I'd just stick with social pheros and smile and feel happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolly Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 He is attracted to you because of the pheros and your actions,while you might be able seduce him,no pheros will make him respect you. The opposite may become true,especially since he is married and knows about your partner...he could come to resent you. This is true. I don't have any problem with a little innocent flirting, Indigo, but it sounds like you're on a mission. If your relationship has room for this, that's fine, but you have no way of knowing if his marriage does. Honestly, I'd just stick with social pheros and smile and feel happy. I agree wholeheartedly here. Flirting is fine and dandy, as long as all of the parties know very clearly where the boundaries are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen of Swords Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I was about to pipe in here ....and then I scrolled down. What Calii, Dolly & Lynne said. Hell I'd add it'd probably be a good idea to just wear blends like SWS for awhile and keep a polite but respectful distance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dolphindolls2 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I agree wholeheartedly here. Flirting is fine and dandy, as long as all of the parties know very clearly where the boundaries are. Such a true statement.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen of Swords Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 (edited) One should also keep in mind laws & regulations regarding sexual harassment in the workplace. Edited April 16, 2013 by Queen of Swords Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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