Queen of Swords

I would actually recommend North Pole for Men even if it has not produced numbers-wise yet.

 

Seconded. I think it's great for both sexes to wear without it being tame at all.

I don't wear this on its own, since there is only so much I want people to open up and tell me, but I did wear it with LFN and TH, and I think it did help with the flow of communication with others last night despite the fact I went home early.

 

ETA: Obviously I'll need to do more experimentation, will report back later.

I'm relieved to see Rocket Fuel is there.

I love BtN, but I want to layer something with it. Any ideas? I could've swore someone layered this with something recently, but I can't remember what it was.

 

I think it's great with SS4W and LACE, or even Leather or Dominance. If you're speaking of scent though I think something high in Amber or sugary sweetness would be a great complimentary pairing.

So this might also be good for networking too? I'm trying to expand my horizons, but I can't seem to get in to most of the unisex scents for unisex blends, but I might try Unisexy again to see if it doesn't give me the butterflies in my stomach affect like last time.

Just wear it as a social phero and see how it goes after a few days or weeks, especially in clubs or bars.

All well and good, but Passion In Pink is now all gone. She might find a sample in the Trading Post section of the forums.

After a small break from using it and wearing LFM again, I have to say I feel more sexy and in charge now when I wear LFN instead in comparison. There's something about the ratios, however small, that makes a difference for me no matter how subtle, and I guess it took more time for me to adapt to it, or something. I'm starting to believe it takes awhile to have a real good review for a phero blend, though I'm too private to ever go full length right now.

My first impulse was to type 'due to its nature you might not want to wear too much in public', then I thought, hey, don't I want more fun tonight anyway? I'll just dab it on my clothes... : P

I haven't tried a combo like this yet, but one of my friends whose stuff I've shared with really seems to like layering BTN w/S&V, says it makes her feel more sexy, powerful and in charge-but I didn't ask about the ratios yet. And I might try layering them like that eventually once I finally get around to ordering an unscented bottle of Dominance.

Sorry for double post...

 

Raq, do you fool around with dosages when you're sampling new pheros? I just wonder if you're not wearing the right amounts for some of those...

 

I wonder the same thing about myself sometimes. I'm not very systematic about sampling things. I put it on, get real excited for the first hit, (because I nearly always get great hits the first and sometimes second times I wear a new blend), and then I get a little bummed 'cause after that I don't get the same reactions from BF. I always have to fool with how much I wear, and *where* I put it in order to get a great reaction from him after the first or second time. I think he acclimates to the new phero signatures very quickly. It's as if the first time I wear a blend he's excited by the new phero signature, (no matter what the dose, simply because it's different), and then afterwards I have to fart around and find a better dose in order for him to be affected. Because of this, I'm wearing pheros more and more for myself than to elicit any kind of response from him.

 

Just curious about how much testing you (and others) do in order to find a good dose.

 

Have you tried rotating blends?

At least there's still blends like LFN, LACE, LAM, Sexology, TH, Heart & Soul, CB, and SS4W as options.

One of my friends got more tips with Popularity Potion.

I'm not a Scorpio, but I do have a stellium of personal planets in a nocturnal sign (Taurus) and lots of Pluto apects, and I've been really loving this.

Normally I'm not in to hoarding, but if I am going to do so this would be the phero blend for me to buy as many bottles as possible, at least when I have less issues with my budget. It's more multipurpose than advertised.

There's something about this blend that gives me what I guess would be called a Stiff Upper Lip, anyone else getting similar results?

...because I will not change to be with someone who is a player and expects you to drop everything for him

 

THIS, and what the other ladies here said.

 

by Annie Lennox has helped me the past few weeks (I can't seem to find the official vid on YouTube for some reason right now).

OK, here goes......

 

If I were in your shoes (and I have been), I would tell him....."don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way out"......because it sounds like this man is telling you that you are his "match" (but only after he is finished doing his "thing") in order to keep you "on the hook"......he wants to know that when he is finished being young and stupid, and is ready for a relationship, that you will be there, waiting for him with open arms.....it is sick, really. I PERSONALLY think you should move on from him.....you can still be friends, but go ahead and grieve the ending of the relationship so you can move on. See other men, find someone worthy of you, and not one who will want to play games with your head and heart.

 

 

Now, if you want pheros to help the two of you COMMUNICATE, I would go with Treasured Hearts or Open windows. I would NOT (NOT NOT NOT) add any sexual blends to the issue (like BI, BAM, OCCO, Cuddle Bunny, etc).....that is simply playing with fire in this situation. I would use the pheros ONLY to encourage open communication, NOT SEX. Treasured Hearts is very good for bonding.....I would go with that first, Open Windows secondly.

 

 

There again, my MAIN advice is that HE IS PLAYING WITH YOU. He wants you to wait for him.....oh sure, you can both see other people, but he wants your HEART to remain with him. SICK. I don't think you should allow yourself to be played in that way.

 

Thank you Dolly-in fact I wish someone told me something like this months ago. This thread has evolved to the point where I know l am more than justified in dropping someone completely out of my life and FB pre-banning before it ever got even close to that level. I really don't need passive Dorian Grey level bullshit based on nostalgia in my life right now.

I have to say I kinda of agree with where QofS is. I can only go off what you have posted so- based on that- it sounds as though you're trying to make him do SOMETHING (sexual or emotional) that he doesn't want to... Do you really want to do that? If pheros are going to TRICK him into doing, being or feeling against his will, do you really want that? It sounds to me analogous to: someone wronging you, they see you're mad, they ask why, you tell them, and they say "GEE SORRY" all sarcastically. You got the result you wanted, but not the WAY you wanted- the fact that they didn't want to do it kind of delegitimizes or at least sure cheapens it, no?

 

If the OP was more blunt about still being in love with him and wanting him back maybe I'd have a few less problems. Maybe. And I'm not against wearing stuff like PM or Gotcha! around men you want, but under these circumstances, perhaps not, unless you're at a social gathering to have fun with other people.

 

And I'm saying this as a type who retains their resentments and bitterness very well, but I have had to learn to deal with this kind of thing and move on-or to be more accurate, avoid people I've had fallouts with. Believe me, I know the denial phase really well, but it's important to learn how to handle this so your actions don't only revolve around your own fantasies and wants.

I guess i wasn't clear... our current separation is greatly a factor of our age/feeling that we are young and need to experience life single (or 20s male reluctance to be tied down situation), and he talks about me being a match for him with whom he sees himself once he shakes himself from this phase, but while he is in the phase of not wanting to have anything more than casual relations he does not want to mess with fire and be tempted back into getting serious with me when he knows it's not where he's at right now. Edit though, I should not being going for a sexual connection, my priority is for us to be able to be emotionally intimate and express our affections, being both on the same page that it currently has not implications of a serious relationship right now. The forced walls are what I'm trying to overcome.

 

Bolded for emphasis. I consider that more of an alarm bell than assurance, really. However, because a lot of people, including myself, leave many things out when asking for advice online then there is only so much I can assume or comment on, and I don't know what his side is here. But people do change, and not always in ways you might find favorable to your interests, as I've noticed the past few months. I just hope you'll be careful, and whatever happens you learn from this experience no matter how it turns out. I'm sure Dolly and other people here would be more helpful than me in giving out advice.

 

ETA: However, if someone stated they didn't want to get emotionally involved with me, I would respect that. Likewise, I would prefer the same from other people if I said that to them.

Bah, I missed the business part, this is what you get when you scan instead of deeply read. I'd go SWS.

I know i know I know I cannot make him want to try a go with me again if he's not feeling it at this point, but i feel that he blocks his feelings of affection for me because of his prejudice against falling for me, and I want to take down those walls. I want to bring out the affection and sexual attraction we have for each other and that is just being pushed away by him, and I want us to be able to be emotionally vulnerable and loving towards each other. He openly says he deeply cares about me and that I don't have to worry about other women, but I am just heartbroken that we are unable to express our affection for each other and embrace it.

 

Sorry to be blunt, but the bolded here is rather contradictory here, and trying to make a sexual touchy feely bond when you say you know you'll never get back together if he's really an ex and has already been seeing someone else sounds like a very bad idea. For all I know he's only saying there aren't other women to make you feel less bad over this, and face it, if I were to be friends again with an ex the last thing I would want to do is bring sexual attraction back in to the mix, especially since I know it's over-then again my personality accommodates being over and done with with people more easily than others.

 

Personally? I think you need to go through the grieving process-which is painful and tough and it sucks, and at most use a phero that has nothing to do with sexual attraction if you are going to continue dealing with him as a friend. If you have a hard time dealing with him as friends only maybe you need time alone without him.

If you're wearing cops without a strong cover scent layered over it regardless of who you're dealing with I'd be worried, but I never have a problem with anyone while wearing Velvet Kisses considering what's in there, including gay men. Sure, cops are the last thing I'd consider important wearing around gay guys if I was interested in alliances, but otherwise I wouldn't worry about something like Red LACE or VK, other than if you yourself like the scent. I just make sure whatever I wear that has cops they're smothered enough in the right perfume oil to have people not notice that they exist.

I believe it has less to do with sexual orientation, more of what people are more likely to respond positively in general honestly.

Unfortunately I never got around to taking time to take track of my cycles. Mine are a bit shorter the older I get, but I have nothing to compare to the past whole year.