Pele

I usually stick to a-nol/cops or more dominant blends with my SO. Perfect Match & LFM are exception, but I wouldn't test them when he's particularly unbalanced. Open Windows seems to work nicely no matter what.

Thank you for this, Beccah. a-nol & cops by themselves seem to not offer much assistance with him, but the self-effects are always lovely.

For the bonfire gathering..... I found myself not really wanting to go, feeling kinda *meh*. So I decided to use some mones mainly for the self-effects and I ended up having quite a great evening. SO was sweet, romantic, fondled me whenever I bent over to toast my marshmallows : D My best girlfriend was talkative and giggly when she is usually quiet and shy around people she doesn't know.

I used Bnol, Anol, none, and cops. I did have wonderful self-effects and even felt a bit..... altered or high....a feeling completely new to me in my pheromone usage. Since this was my first time dancing with Bnol I'm attributing it to that. It was very interesting indeed!!!

I received my order today and am completely high from sniffing all my goodies! .... and my cat is more in love with me than ever! LOL!!! Hypnotized I tell you!

So I got a bottle of EST 30,000 mcg/bottle. My question is this: Does anyone know the approximate mcg content in one spray???

Oh boy, they should look out if you are already straightforward and honest. Bnol could amp that like mad. And don't be surprised if they talk back

LOL! Yes, I was NOT planning on wearing Bnol tonight just for that reason. Tonight may be a a mone-free evening! Hehehe!

Well......... I have very little to report. We had a pleasant evening, a tiny bit of cuddling and a small amount of good, meaningful conversation, but zero romance/passion. The Anol & cops combo has proven to not be effective for him once again. On the upside, this is great information to have and it did help lift my mood. And there is a really good lesson in there for me - the importance of perspective! No matter what brilliant, magical potion I am wearing to enhance or encourage whatever it is I am wanting..... it is VITAL for me to remember that no one but me is responsible for my happiness. And that the only thing I can control is my own self. Lovely me.

Tonight we have a bon fire party to attend. There could be some tensions with 1 or 2 people who may attend (really it is their problem with my straightforward honesty and lack of tolerance for their BS! LOL) My Beta-nol will for sure be here today...... with the smokey environment and social situation & him..... and pondering what to use.

I will keep reporting to you, so many thanks for all the input. This is a truly wonderful community! MUAH!!!

FIrstly, welcome!

Secondly, in my experience, my SO does not do well with Est. heavy blends when he has fallen off the wagon. I think he has a chemical imbalance, but his negative reactions to est. heavy blends are always more pronounced when he's relapsed & following his recovery period. My advice is to steer clear of the "mushy" blends until he seems more balanced.

Beccah, thank you for this! Have you found anything that really helped during this period?

Hm funny if it were me I would go more in the opposite direction of what he already is/is feeling, ie, he sounds quite est/b-nol-y already -- ie, rather than phero-ing him into wider/deeper wallowing, if it were me I'd try balancing with something uplifting like open windows or even straight a-nol. I personally don't have the patience to learn/try blends on my own but my first thought, when reading what you described as working well for him, was Sexpionage.

Well, no packages in the mail for me today. Boooooo!!! Looks like I'm going with Anol & cops and covering with a lovely Vanilla, Vetiver, Patchouli, Ylang-Ylang blend. I've been in a foul mood most of the day and *thankfully* feeling some relief already. We'll see how it goes!

Thank you for the kind words and I wish you both the best.

 

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Hehe Goddess all the way!

WOW!!! Oh my goodness, I have SO grateful for all of your advice!!! I have to say that it felt kinda "off" when I thought of using none with est. Thank you all for confirming that!

QG- Much gratitude for a gent's perspective, and you are quite perceptive. He is not on any antidepressants, but is currently in outpatient rehab. He most certainly is depleted and out of whack hormonally and neurochemically.... and yes, we are not going to try to fix everything at once. It must all be taken at a doable pace that feels inspiring rather than overwhelming.

I have The Edge which is the exact formula as NPA, only NPA is many many times stronger. And I love it. It certainly has its place! He seems to love it too.

The bit about not turning into his "savior" or "mom". This is exactly what I am wanting to avoid....You see, I single handedly organized and successfully pulled off an intervention for him. Got him into rehab, united all the (few) people in his life. And now I control his money. By control, I only mean that I HAVE it and am his bridge to paying bills and buying what he needs. He just simply can't have access to his money. He knows this and is totally on board. His family of origin...yeah, I see why he's an addict for sure. Where I ABSOLUTELY want him to be the man and romance me, I know this is not the time to be working on relationship issues like that. At least not in a direct way. Encouragement to grow and lean in those directions (enhanced with Mones) would be lovely. I am very open with my communication and have always been straightforward with my needs. He knows what he needs to work on (and he WANTS to grow in those ways).

I have grown in this situation in ways that continue to amaze me. I have very proud of us both. I don't NEED him for anything. I am in a place of graceful allowing and gentle intent....if that makes sense to you. I take care of myself and look forward to when he has more to offer.

So in the mean time, I feel if we're not setting the bed (or the kitchen floor) on fire from time to time........I don't want the cuddling and comfort bit to turn into a mom thing!!!

I will have to wait to purchase more goodies and work with what I have for now (and what is in the mail...YAY!!!) Although, when it is time to buy again, I will take every single one of these suggestions in to serious account.

At this point, I'm not sure what mone approach I will take. My beta nol should be here today.... if it does, perhaps tonight I will try just a little of it with a high dose of cops. If not....well, I don't know.

Love to you all!!! I will most certainly keep you posted, and feel free to add any ideas if they come!!!!

Light,

Pele

Hello all! I am new to this forum and am delighted to have found a place full of ladies (and gents of course) discussing these fun topics. Yay!

Ok, so I wouldn't call myself a total newbie, but I have certianly not had nearly as much field experience as most of you. This is why I am hoping to get some ideas on how to best assist my sweet SO. My arsenal is mainly LS products, as I have only just recently discovered LP...however, I just spent a small fortune on an order that is currently en route to ME!!!!

Ok, so my man is in a real rough patch. I mean...a REAL one. He's struggling with some depression, guilt, self-doubt, recovery from addiction, only to mention a few. We don't live together and only see eachother about twice a week. He is not an Alpha male, but more the intellectual, socially awkward type. He has a gentle, sensitive feel about him, yet is not overly demonstrative with his feelings.

We have been together for years and have a natural comfort/attraction combo between us that is really wonderful.

So far, his most delicious responses have been from :

-heavy dose of EoW covered with Alter Ego (LS- Anol, rone, none)

-a mix I make of Edge, Alter Ego, Cleo (Anol + Cops), and EoW

He definitely seems to respond better to an edgier mix.... seems there needs to be some none in there for him...and cops of course.

So I have Beta nol, Est, the entire Bohemian Cats collection, plus a whole slew of other goodies on their way (APC, Super Primal, Liquid Trust, Sexology, Passion & Desire....and more!)

Ok, so I'm so intrigued with Est & Beta nol.....I can't wait to test them out..... has anyone had any experiences mixing them with small amounts of none?

I want my sweet man to feel connected, relaxed, and safe with me.....yet I also want to keep and enhance the steaminess..... I want our time together to be as, ahem, beneficial as possible.

I would be so appreciative of any ideas or advice!!!