phergineer

Thanks ladies, I was thinking Balm Bomb too! I don't have that, but I do have something similar from a different company which was my first full bottle phero purchase. Not sure if it's ok to mention it here. I tried that today, to no avail. Yes, it calmed me down, but as in I just didn't give a fuck anymore for a few hours. Not exactly the effect I was looking for.

 

Now, in terms of him doing his part, I wish he did - and he tries, but since I'm the one who is more domestically inclined of the two, he just doesn't think of certain things... like maybe I should tell her not to walk around with shoes on before phergineer gets upset about it.

Since she's his guest, I expect him to take care of all of that, and I told him so...

 

ETA: grammar

If it's already a done deal and she's definitely coming, then I would wear a phero that makes me feel good, and one that works well in creating good vibes. Just decide (don't bring it up now) if this is going to be the last time, and if it is then you are all adults and it shouldn't be an issue.

BYW there's nothing wrong with being friends ect, but you don't have to be best buds. friendly acquaintances is just fine. You shouldn't feel pressured.

 

It's a done deal... But, he has already invited her over for Thanksgiving. So I have to be cordial to her then too, plus his entire family, which I sometimes have trouble with.

Let me clarify something - they are all nice to me, I am the one that has trouble sometimes because of situations like this. Well, in this woman's case, she's nice to me, and I have always had trouble around her. So, I guess I need something that makes me feel good.

The last time she was over and we had dinner together (she, my fiance and I), I lit up a wax melt with Topper. I'm not sure it helped me though... I was able to talk a bit more, but not with her, just with my fiance.

On the other hand...could this girl have a thing for him?

BlueBear - that's one of the things that got my fiance and I fighting yesterday. I said - "ok, I'm not happy with this, but she can stay with us... as long as our plans do not change tomorrow" and then I brought up the fact that I am not too happy with how close they are... Well, he did not take that very well. "I don't understand what in my character would even make you think I'd disrespect you in such a way?! She just wants to be your friend, and you keep pushing her away! What did she do to you to make you dislike her so much? Yes she put her stuff on your art work last time, but she did not do it on purpose! It's like you do not want to help people unless you get something out of it" Which is not true... He knows I go out of my way for people, but not if I feel they take advantage of me, which this is what this situation feels like. She had a place to stay on Friday night, but then she claimed it was too far from the airport and asked if she can crash at our place Saturday night. So my fiance said she'd be out in the morning, taking a cab to the airport... Riiiiight... Our entire day today was spent around her schedule, and taking her to the airport. And now I have to clean up!!!

 

StacyK - thanks, I don't feel so crazy reacting this way anymore. I think I'm going to make him clean the bathroom. I know i'll have to audit his work, as he's never done it before, but maybe he'll get where I'm coming from.

As for what makes me feel in charge... DOM!!! The one time i wore it, my fiance was very submissive, but I am not sure he actually enjoyed doing so...

I have not had much success with LFM yet, but I'll keep trying.

Thank you all for your suggestions.

 

I do have Lumina. I've only tried it once, I think it did help me open up, but I was already with friends of mine...

 

Unfortunately I do not have MLH on hand, but that will get here in the order I placed Friday. I know that will come in handy.

 

Given that things have not improved between my fiance and I today, Perfect Match might be a good one to try. I got a little more upset once we got home after dropping her to the airport. I scrubbed the guest bathroom last week in the anticipation of my in-law's arrival, and now it's a mess. The sink is covered in tooth paste, and she even left her panties hanging on the bathtub faucet!!! I know, I need to go in the Bitching Post, and write about this, which I will. I am fuming and really need something to calm me down right now.

 

I know this is not an isolated situation, as my fiance's family are slobs and I have to bite my tongue when they are over our house. His father licks his fingers when he cooks and then he uses the same unwashed fingers to grab the food he then serves to us... Ok, maybe I am OCD, but I just cannot get over things like that.

 

I am mentally preparing for their arrival, and along with that, a little help from pheros would be nice.

 

So, I really need something to help me be more relaxed around such house guests while getting my fiance on my side - making him understand that I work hard to keep this house in shape - and putting my foot in the door in a nice way around guests.

 

I guess I have two things to deal with - tense situation with my sweetheart as a result of my inflexibility and irritability when people treat our home like a hotel, and me shutting down around them when these people are inconsiderate from my point of view. Don't get me wrong - I know they aren't mean spirited (or at least I hope they aren't) but that doesn't mean I should let them walk all over me.

I think Empathy Potion might help in this respect.

Thank you, Luna, that's the one UN sample I did not order this November - i will have to make a new order. I did not think about it until this weekend. Ugh.

 

Since I have my future in laws coming over for Thanksgiving, I should probably invest in this, as it seems it might work better in my case than Treasured Hearts.

I am very particular about people staying over my house, as in I can't deal with slobs...

I guess the question itself may scream Open Windows, but let me share a bit about my situation first. ..

 

I am an introvert. In my personal space, with my immediate family and fiance, I am relaxed, silly, simply myself.

However, if anyone invades my private space, I put up a front. I become passive aggressive.

 

Here's an example. This weekend we had plans, my fiancé and I to go for a bike ride and brunch. Saturday, one of his coworker/ girl friends texts him and asks if she can stay over at our place, after she had already borrowed his car the entire day. She's been looking for an apartment in the area, being out of town. I foresaw this happening, and got frustrated. Last time she stayed with us, she made herself really at homw, putting her clothes over my artwork and shoving her clothes in my closet.

My fiancé said she'd fly out this morning and our biking and brunch plans wouldn't change. I doubted it.

This morning, turns out she doesn't fly out until the evening, and our plans were out the window.

He's blamed me for shutting her out and being inflexible - which i am. He says he's just helping a friend and she wants to be my friend.

He says I always stress out when his family comes over too.

 

My question is - what phero would help me overcome my anger towards her and be open? I really don't want to be around her, but I realize I have to make an effort, to show I am mature enough. I understand my reactions may be unwarranted. I just don't enjoy when someone imposes on me.moreover, my fiancé and I have been on bad terms all weekend because of my attitude... He has been very frustrated with me and I would like him to get over it and both of us to move on.

 

Thank you!

 

ETA: grammar mistakes due to my state of mind...

Indigo, i hope you fully recovered and are back to your healthy, happy self!

I was wondering if you have any updates on this?

Which phero did you go with and how did it go for you?

 

Do any other members have reports of what pheros have worked well for them in terms of favors? Is the vote still with popularity potion?

I haven't had the chance to test the sexual ones much, so I'm of no help there, but I do agree with Eggers and Dolly - Open Windows rocks!

Or try Levitation if you want OW with a more fun vibe, but I have no experience with it.

 

It seems like your arsenal would benefit from a social like that, so far I only see sexy socials. Just my thoughts.

This is sunshine in a bottle for me. I get Seasonal Affective Disorder, and this helped me last night to get vibrations similar to summer back into my body. Therapeutic and emotional...thank you LMPM and to phergineer for the sample. It's a really long winter here in the Pacific Northwest, and my main goal right now is to find scents to help me get through it. LP Gold is on the top of the list.

Glad you hear that worked out for you!

I spent 6 years in upstate New York, Buffalo/Rochester area, and I too suffered of SAD (I always thought the acronym for seasonal affective disorder is so appropriate!). If only I had found LP scents back then!

It looks like the new Open Windows - Lighting in A Bottle might be a good one for you to try as well.

Luna, I'm caffeine deprived.. still unclear whether the UN trials are only on Etsy (meaning I can order some now, woo!) Or if they'll be on the LP site too (so I should wait and combine orders)

 

That was actually my question, too

Soie et Fourriere and I do not work well together. To me, this smells a bit like hugging your wealthy grandmother-- soft old skin and cold cream and eighty years of class. A woman you'd probably be quite fond of (and impressed by), but I'm not sure I want to smell like her. So I guess the scent is pretty true to the description: old-fashioned luxury. Just can't see myself in it!

 

Aaah, I really want to try this one, but the "old fashioned" comment made me hold off... ugh...what to do...

Ok, thank you!

 

I was curious about the UN scented trial size pheros. Will they be on the LP site? Or just on Etsy?

Actually my best results with Pop have been with scented versions. I think it's a less is more deal with this one for me. Plus, I love Lamb & my ever so fav Sweet Chic.

 

Phergineer, you may have OD'd or had an off night with it. This is exactly the "thing" with pheros and why it's hard to get what's considered empirical evidence for social use. So many variables. If you've had a good time with it before I'm sure you will again.

Did you drink at this Happy Hour? That could have had an impact especially if you were already feeling off. I'd just take a break from Pop, then come back to it on a few weeks.

 

Yes, I am sure I applied a lot more than I used to... since I got my full bottle of unscented Pop Potion, plus a PP enhanced full bottle scent, I forgot how much I used to apply from my Totem Lamb trial vial...

And yes, I did have one drink, which I am sure did not help

Is there a preference for Mara/LP on whether we place the order via Etsy or directly on the LP website?

Today I feel like my fiance when he gets to the next level in his "Destiny" PS4 game and gets a new title... He's been asking me about my forum titles. Can't wait to tell him I'm finally a Disgruntled House Elf!!!

Thank you, thank you!

 

In way, I am glad I took a while to say "Hi" and make my own mistakes - not to say I won't continue to make any

In my excitement of receiving my first LP order, everything I read on the forum was pushed to the back of my head. I don't know why I thought I knew better, and I definitely do not recommend layering, but I guess I had to experience the negative effects on my own. Only then I could get it that layering was not a good idea...
I have not layered anything other than cops since my first week of trying pheros.

 

I don't think I've worn anything long enough to determine if they are a favorite. I used to love Totem Lamb with Popularity Potion while I was in Europe, and then when I returned to the States and back to my old job and team, I started wearing SWS, unscented, which seems to work well for my purposes.

I am looking forward to getting most of the pheros in unscented form this November I need to find some go-to blends for play-time (social and sexual).

I have been lurking on the forum since August, but I'm obviously still a baby.

Aside from introducing myself, I wanted to say "thank you" to the LP community for being so helpful and welcoming. I've learned so much in 3 months, and I know I haven't even scratched the surface!

 

I'm about to turn 30, getting married in May '15, and I live in a desert climate - oil blends are probably best for me. I'm a hardware engineer surrounded by men who look at me like I am incapable of doing my job. Micro-inequities are the norm in my office.

I'm an introvert, and this can sometimes make me seem unapproachable, depending on the environment.

 

I found LP while looking for a corporate/office blend. Even though I wasn't able to get a sample of a scent enhanced with Swimming with Sharks on my first order, I got quite a few popular ones that allowed me to start learning about pheromones and LP scents: LP Rouge, Totem Bat, Totem Panda, Totem Lamb, Flutterby, Phero Girl, Exotica, Crescendo, OCCO Ambrosia, Sexology III. (By the way, thank you LP Customer service for shipping this first order lightning fast while I was on extended work assignment in Europe and had a limited time to receive it!)

 

Of course, despite reading on the forum what not to do, I layered complex blends and got myself in bad situation on my first trys. I wore cops in public, while by myself in a foreign country, and had my butt grabbed in the subway by a creepy guy.

I OD'ed multiple times and I expect to continue to do so for a while.

The toughest part has been getting used to LP scents and learning what works on my skin. I've learned that my skin chemistry changes throughout the month, and that my nose evolves (luckily so does my sweetheart's).

 

I've been fascinated with LP and look forward to apply the scents and/or pheros every day. I can see a difference in my office team dynamics ever since I started wearing the potions. Next is experimenting with sexual blends at home.

 

 

I have to agree on the Levitation suggestion - I have yet to try it though

This was my first try of Popularity Potion. At first, I thought it smelled like grass... at least in the vial, and when it was still wet on my skin. But as it dried, it reminded me of some of my favorite commercial scents, which I wear every day: Lancome So Miracle and Versace Crystal.

To me, it definitely smells green, but fresh. Thankfully, not like cut grass too much, but like a spring day, with fresh spring flowers, some grass in a meadow and the sweetness of the flowers' nectar.

 

I wore this to our engagement photoshoot, and it was perfect. I am sure the fact that we were having photos taken of us in a public turisty place added to the effect, but I felt sparkly and like I was the center of the universe. There were other couples taking photos there - real brides and groomsmen, and they even stopped to look at us and congratulate us (although it wasn't our wedding day!). We had several tourists ask if they can take a photo of us (I did not see them stop and take photos of the brides...), and a few parents with children making remarks like "Look, a fairy!"

My fiance and I were able to be our usual silly selves - we got our photos back from our photographer yesterday, and we like 180 out of the 200 she included in the album! And most of them are silly, goofy photos. The most common comment we got on them is "That's very representative of you two as a couple". So, it worked!

That day sold me on Totem: Lamb and Popularity Potion.

I feel that way with Pop!! I finally gave my spray of Darling C w/pop to my mom. I can't figure out what is in this that would cause that. Probably wearing too much but it's hard not to with a scent like DC. I gave up. Topper serves as my pop potion anyway.

I will have to write review on PopPotion in the right thread, because other than in the business happy hour instance, I have not had issues with it...

I'll have to try it around my sweetheart... he took a while to warm up to LP scents, and I still get comments that I smell like candles or worse (ugh, honey scents...), but now that he has his own stash of samples to play with, he seems more open to my scents as long as they aren't too dirty or foodie.
I think this one will go just fine - it may come across as a little foodie to him, but I should be fine. I can see myself wearing this with LFM, SS4W or LFN.

Upon dry down, this one smells like almond on me... marzipan to be more exact. There is some sweetness and very light creaminess to it, but it stay perfumey overall. And what can be more luxurious than that? It must be the fruit mixed with musks that combine to smell like marzipan on my skin. I like it, it is very sophisticated.
This is something I would wear on romantic date at a fancy French restaurant, or waiting for my sweetheart in a silk robe while slathering some cops

I love Dom. I'd wear that. Dom can actually be a fun phero. It can give you a very attractive, in control of her shit, appeal.

Think power suit (with a skirt) & heels.

Dom leaves an impression.

 

Pop potion is more kiddy time to me. Great for a brunch or hanging out with friends.,

 

SWS is always good for work but your out for drinks, full on grown up fun time but also an op to make an impression and show other aspects of your personality.

 

Just be careful pheros can make you somewhat more susceptible to the effects of alcohol.

 

Have fun!

 

I ended up going with Popularity Potion, I read this too late... I can't say it was the best decision. I may have OD-ed. I felt very uneasy. There were only 6 of us at the table, and I wasn't able to take part of the conversation much. I felt out of place. I usually love PopPotion, but this time it just didn't work. People were almost contradicting me whenever I was saying something.

So today I got invited last minute to a happy hour with higher management and the two people visiting from Europe where I'm hoping to score a new job next year.

I only have sample vials of pheroed fragrances of popularity potion, dominance and swimming with sharks...

it will be a mostly male environment, and I will be the most junior engineer, and one of the very few (young attractive) females.

Which one would work best in this situation?

I would go with Heart and Soul - Flutterby