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Everything posted by raydee8_love

  1. I feel for you. Do the two of you do anything special - not sex- together? like a hobby ? play cards, cook? music ? knew about a similar situation - the dad was jealous of the kids but at the same time didn't want to interfer with the nursing and mom time. he just kept doing and saying stuff that wound up ruining the relationship how about some La Femme Mystere or Levatation - for everyday , I gave my sister Open windows and cougar they worked pretty well sexpionage or La femme Noire for sex maybe some TMI to find out what is on his mind There is a saying - Fear makes you dumb - Love makes you smart I have found this to be very true
  2. I am still using the "brown background' site.. because I'm still looking at the GGG and sale stuff..... I want to make sure I get what I can while it's still on the site. I do know that when you click shop blog it comes to the new and very pretty site here. I do like the colors adding...Haven't tried the new features here yet
  3. NOTHING !!!! - You have done nothing wrong. Do you understand how you now believe that, you committed some offense for which you need to be punished/banished ? He has placed this idea in your mind. He criticizes you without really knowing you. He finds objections before there is any evidence. He admires you then pushes you aside. He speaks sweetly then explodes. He acts like a gentleman then he assumes the role of a cad. Do you pick men or attract men who all follow these actions? If so, then I would say maybe you need to find a different path. But in this case this man - this is all on him. Yes, this is mind games. He wants a certain response and so he tries method A, then Method B - no result = explosion. He goes back to Method A and still no result = he disappears. He tries method C = cut you off. Where are his divorce papers????? Why can't you meet his family??? Why can't he meet your friends and family? Can't Even Text?? No 10 minute call ???? It's really hard on our psyches when we like someone like this kind of man. What about your investment?? So far I don't see any investment or true concernment on his part my best friend is dealing with something very similar - they did have a relationship but is was the same thing, finding fault, criticizing, exploding temper - she was often wonders what she did wrong too- but it's the same answer NOTHING - you didn't do anything wrong!!
  4. i thought this meant apologize - does it mean break it off?? i think the up/down, in/out, hot/cold is just a operating mode it usually works Lfm helps people like you but remain respectful
  5. I agree with this - preformance is at the top of his list - and the big head needs to have the little head make it ED is heartbreaking and can ruin a relationship if correct action is not taken - and medical checkup is needed
  6. i find this highly worrisome - new people are usually more blind to people's faults .... He is telling you it won't work out without saying this. 10 days?? his sister?? no communication??? Very odd Plus - leaving a lady stranded on a street ???? - what kind of a man or a friend does that ?? a lot of what he is saying probably works on other women - yes sit back and do NOTHING do stuff with friends and family, make things, read, cook i think he will call in 10 days LFM - mix it up
  7. Where have Sugared layerables moved to?? they used to be with Fairy Cakes -
  8. that is very Capricorn... so thrifty .... so cheap this!!! this is just selfish - he could have fish, soup, vegetables he doesn't need to order high calorie food - so I'll call him on that ......hhh say What??? so he is testing to see what you will do - here for work again ???? if you already established and he was asking you to come to him that would be different why are You the squeeze in on the schedule avoidant behavior - he can't get close, when is he coming just to see you?? neither do I - what the hell?? hey be a gentleman and make a plan to see the lady ... another avoidant behavior capricorns are big on respect and reputation - his behavior towards you seems, at times, to be disrespectful also why doesn't he have his own copy of his divorce papers?? just another nagging tidbit in the usa divorce papers are public records and can be searched by county yes I agree 100% and when you're older we also have kids, stepkids, grandkids, elderly parents, other dependents and our work, our houses and stuff, debt, faults, baggage, unfinished business so it's acceptance ++++ I wonder if you could ask for some references ? you do for work professional and personal references I am still hoping he'll get over himself
  9. yes to TMI and Dom and leather some of his actions don't seem very capricorn w/leo moon -
  10. .......... hhhhmmmmm....... this makes me question what he really means..... seems kinda odd to me - why is he making all these plans?? when you don't know who he is yet- and he doesn't know who you are yet. I just don't like that he seems to rush in/back off..... rush in/back off - also finding fault in you- blaming you about phone call thing - that is highly worrisome to me - i do not like that at all enjoy what he offers - BUT don't invest in him , sit back and see how it goes - don't let him rush you into anything hoping for the best for you
  11. oh my gosh that is so awesome yes patience & compassion and he misses you and he's cute wet!!!
  12. I know exactly what you mean - no they are not perfect - I have been very frustrated...... I realize that being angry just makes them retreat into their shells even more - so I try to remember to have compassion -then i remind myself I am a good woman and deserve good love
  13. - I feel bad too !!! - hanging up on someone is unCapricorn , they are usually very contained Lots of anger in this, lots of frustration too. Just happen to be in same city?? does that mean he won't be making any effort, or you come to him or by chance you meet in neutral territory?? - lost of interest - PANIC and retreat Yes this was rude I was looking forward to you seeing him again! yes he will be feeling bad and disappointment.... the come on fast part then completely change course most likely is a pattern on his part .... I thought he was an introverted INJQRDUL??? what ever that personality thing is.... I don't think he does this at work - But again this is classic avoidant behavior - HE is Let down so HE needs to retreat leo moon ... this is very typical most men do anger as the surface issue - usually it's something else, like fear, shame, pride,panic, but anger is the only emotion they can do and it usually gets some kind of result even if it's negative. this again makes other people want to avoid him - avoidant behavior again make sure you give yourself sometime to work through the sadness and disappointment you are feeling don't bottle it up and dont try to stuff it down and yes attend to yourself, your business, your life, your friends, i am so sorry i wasn't there .... my heart is with you {{{hugs}}}
  14. classic avoidant behavior ... and "his idea"' what does that mean?? bind you? - compulsion ? okay it's still early for any family involvement but don't want them to know is hhhmmm..... he is a grown man not a high school kid just like another Cap with Leo moon i know ... keeping you at a distance do not project your own fears on to him you can always blame the equinox but don't let him cause you to panic no fear, no blame, no recriminations, no hysteria you can always say since this wasn't planned maybe it just isn't the right time
  15. uummmm - can you do a spokeo or what ever it's called using his name and phone number ?? just move slowly ....
  16. ummmm NO NO NO - good lady - don't let anyone rush you yes !!! this was not on the docket it's extra last time it was in one month and now it's is this a good plan for you?? well he would be an idiot not to try - right? relax in a hotel room - what with his trousers off? giving you a massage?? but you can tell him that you are glad that the 2 of you seem to have a really good connection and that it feels so good when you are connecting you can also tell him that you want to get to know him better and you want him to learn what you are all about tell him that a coffee date would be great and that you will be happy IF you both have the chance to see one another this time if you can't meet this time, for what ever reason, let him know that are looking forward to meeting him again when his plans won't be dictated by his work meeting as you know his work is very important to him- right? I still recommend taking your time not in an artificial way but just making sure everything is kosher with this guy make sure you really like him, make sure you feel comfortable you can tell him you feel an attraction towards him - be warm and open but let him know that you are not ready for a hotel room try to do active things as opposed to just sitting - like a gallery, walk in a cutesy area, visiting something of interest find out about him? why he chose his profession, why he likes (insert hobby) and let him know stuff about you what are your hobbies, interests, books you have read, movies..... future plans, best memories of elementary school ask about his family ..... keep it positive I dont know about Dom or leather - i don't have any experience with them but seems to be a good mix and yes to B-nol
  17. wow - i freaked out - they are scary - but at least I know it's an optical illusion something with Pears??? yes!!
  18. I am going to say this - I think you should wait beyond 2-3 conversations. I am not saying be dishonest or untruthful, just wait for a while longer. My reasoning 1 - the economy is good, you could find something soon, then no need to say anything. 2- do you give people you really don't know your financial report? - no - why is this any different - after all you could get a new situation in a few weeks. 3- in time if things are getting more friendly - NOT SEX - but moving closer then you can discuss this but don't be surprised if he wants to look at your resume and fix it all up. 4 men who have been "burned" financially in connection with romance can be super antsy and sometimes keep a running tab in their minds 5- just because he he feeling a high from the novelty doesn't mean it will keep on going- brains can only handle so much dopamine before they need a break - then well Reality 6.- wait for the sex see if there is real intimacy on his part - make sure he is decided that he is connected to you not trying to put a damper on anything .... i just have seen a similar situation from a far everything seemed like it was going good she was super gorgeous had a fantastic job, was funny and good and smart but he just could not make the real connection and she wound up heart broken But I do know someone in another situation - and that one is a fairy tale, when they 1st meet she thought I am just going to get to know him and he can get to know me... he made THE most important connection of his with her and is happier than he was when he was a young guy..... now well it's better than Cinderella!! go slowly one step at a time
  19. - my opinion is that for this type of man feeling out of control is way beyond what they are used to. they the cappy alpha with leo moon is very serious and practical, and the emotional stuff makes them uncomfortable - why would he like a woman he hardly knows?? Maybe he has not had any kind of feeling like he was experiencing with you in a very long time. BUT at the same time their own feelings are strong - and in their everyday life they control themselves and their environments - "contained' is a good descriptive word I wonder if this man is private too- not secretive just private. the texting - well when he's ready to text it's all go - but if he's busy it's almost like he never even heard of you - i find that confusing BUT i think a lot of men are the same way.... be warm and kind, be open to finding out about him - what is he all about? Do you like what is all about in a few months when you know him better, will you still like him? and don't assume on his part - ask him for definitions go slow one step at a time - and stay on top of your own life, don't neglect yourself - got my fingers crossed for ya
  20. oh my stars - that is like a hallmark story... fabulous!! - I do not think you over did it - I know a Cap with Leo moon - alpha - avoidance behaviors ....... so i'm really interested in how things go
  21. will there be wax melts again ? something fresh scented/ professional ?
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