i like and agree all the messages communicated by these wise ladies...
this guy sounds selfish... I am sorry but you need to move on in your own path without any expectation of him being there for you emotionally.You feel there is something special between you and him, but you will feel the same with another guy given time. You are in denial stage where you hold on to his words and over analyze everything he says. Some times people say things to smooth the tension and they may mean well and they do mean it at that moment, but you have to judge how sincere he is by his ACTIONS but WORDS. The fact of the matter is that he is getting more involved with another girl... sooo.. yeh... I do not think he is that into you to be frank.... I mean many women have been in your positions, so do not feel humilated or frustrated, just move on and improve yourself in all aspects of life : career, health, finance, relationships. And when he is ready or if you guys are really meant to be together, he will come to you ... instead of you chasing him around.
I highly recommend you to read the book 'the rules' - teaching women to be elusive and not getting emotionally addicted to a man too fast too hard.