snowflake Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 I'll be going to meet my grown-up son this weekend. I see him very seldom because he is staying far away from my place due to his studies. Well, I need to give him some advice regarding his further studies and some financial matters. He is that kind of person who never listens to others and makes things more difficult than they should be. That's why I want to talk to him and I'd be glad if he would listen to me. I'm thinking about wearing MLH, which I have but never tried so far. But may be MLH is not so suitable for 'adult kids'? Another choice would be Treasured Hearts. This seems to be good for family reunion. But will it be a support when giving advice? SWS? ....may be not. How about Open Windows? Does anybody have an idea for this situation? I'd very much appreciate suggestions from other forum members. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ravenwing Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 i think MLH would work well as well as OW Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goddesslynne Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 I immediately think of TH, along with a scent that makes you feel calm and confident. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raq On Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 I have MLH and my eldest is 17. It seems to have a calming effect on her and and "in charge" effect on me. I would vote for that. Also, I've found that asking open questions gets that ball rolling (and I have to refrain from commenting, which for me is next to impossible) They know everything anyway right? :-) But when I approach my kid and her finances, job, grades, etc that way, it gets her talking first. And then I usually ask, "so what are you going to do?" ( a great Love and Logic technique) That way I am not the fixer. If I can manage to slide in a couple phrases of advice/opinion in, then I consider it a successful conversation. They listen to us more than we think, but it's usually on a more unconscious level. Good luck. And enjoy your visit with your son! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Potion Master Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 Mother's Little Helper or Swimming with Sharks are my top two choices for this situation, and maybe even Teddy BB. Treasured Hearts works great on female relatives, Teddy BB worked best on my Dad...calmed him and got him listening to me and treating me like an equal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowflake Posted May 30, 2012 Author Share Posted May 30, 2012 Ladies, thank you so much for your suggestions! I was a bit torn between MLH, TH and OW. I think I'll try my luck with MLH and a suitable scent which makes me feel confident. Mara, I have tried TH several times with female relatives and it worked great (I've never tried it with males). Well, as I do not have TeddyBB, I'll stick with MLH. Raq On, I agree with you that our kids often listen to us on an unconcious level so that we are not really aware of it. So, I will not give up hope. Thank you for your good wishes. I'll report when I come back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calii Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 Ohhh such great advice given ...I just want to wish you well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowflake Posted June 4, 2012 Author Share Posted June 4, 2012 Ladies, thank you once again for your good advice and wishes. MLH was a good choice and everything went well. I wrote about my experience in the phero area. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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