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In relation to Luna's post above, does your sister feel different within her self, now that her hormonal balance is shifting? That's probably a bit of a silly younger woman question, because I'm sure feeling different to some degree is inevitable, as chemical balance strongly influences this in us all. I was just thinking, if her general emotional/mental state and/or relationship with how she views herself has changed much maybe that's also being picked up on subconsciously by men. I read a quote once by Salma Hayek, where she said something to the effect of the biggest secret to being beautiful is that you feel you are. Since then I've noticed I get a ton of compliments from people, and much more attention from them, when I'm in a state where I feel completely content in myself and I am aware of my own beauty/sexiness, etc. I truly believe the energetic state we inhabit projects itself outwards towards others, and they are definitely influenced by it. It's like we're all practicing a form of faery glamour, all of the time, without realising it. Or maybe I'm just a little insane...

Yep, he really should read this article properly and have a little think about what that means for you. And at the risk of beating a dead horse here, if he refuses to clean her dirty bathroom I would too if I were you. Because no, it's not penance for something she did. It's called being fucking considerate and doing your bit! Thought I'd add this link, in case you can get him to look at it properly. Probably not though- it might feel like penance for not respecting your personality. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/16/understanding-introverts-_n_5989656.html?cps=gravity

It's an interesting scent VV. Sometimes on me it comes across as deeper and stronger, and sometimes as a softer lighter scent. Quite magical. I think LFM for me would go well with this. Or Leather even. Warm elegance with a good amount of depth.

Oh Phergineer, I'm glad you got to discuss it all, and sorry it didn't go as well as hoped for. Your situation is making me feel stressed and irritated for you. She really just sounds like a pushy conniving little bitch that thinks because you're an introverted, quieter person that she can do whatever the fuck she likes. I still say don't clean that damn bathroom. His friend used it, she left a disgusting mess. His family will use it next (whom you also said are slobbish). He can either do his bit and clean it for their arrival, or let them use it dirty. Just close the door and don't think about it, because it's just another way you can be used and disrespected in this situation. If she's not welcome in your house anymore he needs to make that clear the next time she presumes she will be able to come round. Tyvey's Dom bomb could be just the thing here, for him and her. If they both see that you're strong and won't back down then no one will be feeling like they can walk all over you. Also, there is nothing wrong with being an introvert! If your fiancé thinks you being who you are is unacceptable, and you need to be more like him, then I'm sorry but he needs to get a fucking clue. I can't even begin to count the number of extroverts who treat us this way- as though we need to change because we aren't good enough, being unlike them. Respect go both ways. So does tolerance and flexibility. Good luck and stay strong.

Oh, Halo just beat me to it, lol! I was just thinking maybe Balm Bomb since it's really stressful for you. Personally I couldn't stand having someone come into my house and not be clean and considerate of the space. It would drive me to stay in a hotel myself. If this woman is your fiancé's friend, and he's the one who keeps inviting her over if it were me I'd be leaving him in charge of cleaning up after her (and making sure he did his part before and during her stay as well). Not that I'm presuming he doesn't do his bit, but sometimes one partner has a tendency to take what the other does around the house for granted. And his friend/family are the ones causing extra work/mess/stress. Your feelings need to be taken into consideration too- it's your house, your Thanksgiving, etc as well as theirs. I think it's great you're trying to find a way to feel more open and accepting and work things out, but don't let yourself be walked all over either. Thank goodness you have LP magic to help you get through it!

StacyK, I've used Empathy Potion quite a bit. I'm sure it'll be different for everyone, but what it feels like for me is that it's forming a strong two-way connection between myself and those around me, to the point where we each seem naturally so much more intuitively in tune with how the other is feeling. It almost feels like a telepathic line of communication has formed. It can be very strong for me, and I'm very empathetic already. It doesn't change how people feel though, in my experience. I wouldn't imagine it would lessen another's distress, unless that distress was caused directly by an issue they were having with you. In which case it could smooth things over. I would not say it'd be likely to stop someone dwelling on things. I'll tell you my most impressive Empathy Potion story now, as a cautionary tale as much as anything. I wore it to a social event one day, and a man I know a little (late 30s-early 40s) was there. He's a lovely, shy, soft and gentle person who always seems quietly content. Sometimes in the past I've picked up on an undercurrent of depression. This day it was different. It was like a black hole had just opened up inside me, and there was nothing left beyond it. Nothing at all. Just an absolute pit of despair. I felt this like it belonged to me, not him, and even after he left the place the influence of his emotions didn't wane. I had to go home myself, because I couldn't recover from it. A week later I heard that this man had killed himself later that day. I still feel haunted by this. And I don't use Empathy Potion lightly- it's powerful stuff.

Phergineer, I can definitely empathise with your situation. I'm also an introvert, and cannot stand feeling intruded upon. This also makes me very hard to get to know, as I'm closed off from people. So I can recommend a couple of things that have worked well for me: Empathy Potion, as Luna suggested, could be brilliant here. Because it can work two ways at once- by making you more open and accepting of (and connected to) those around you, and by making them feel more empathetic towards you. I have the UN strength, which is powerful stuff. I already have an overdeveloped sense of empathy, so I don't use it lightly. Lumina: Of all the wonderful social phero-mixes available here, this one makes me feel like I come across as more open and inviting to others. I love OW and TH for getting along with people and setting a good mood generally, but Lumina makes people feel so happy to interact with me, and makes me feel more secure in my place within those interactions. I don't know if you've looked at the Lumina thread yet (on which I gush about it repeatedly), but there seems to be a bit of a pattern of Lumina working well for natural introverts. It also seems to work well for people who may not find Cougar gives them strong effects. Good luck, and let us know what works for you.

That's a great review SpriteLeigh! You've just inspired me to try this one out next time I have a shift at a place with some difficult people. Haven't really worn Heart & Soul to work much before.

I'm so excited by all these gorgeous goodies I've been flitting around the descriptions on the homepage since yesterday, like a moth round a light bulb. Everything looks so wondrous, I could die from happiness! I have to get myself under control a little before ordering, or I'll go bankrupt. Loved your awesome descriptions Luna- Secret Sweetness is my favourite because it feels like it was written just for me.

Beach Goddess, glowiness and fawning can't be a bad thing! Hope it works well for you when you try it. Donsie, not sure if it makes people less intimidating, unless the intimidation factor comes from being too inaccessible. But I do know that even though I'm very uncomfortable around people and unsure of myself, with Lumina people's eyes light up when they see me. LFM, on the other hand, makes me very intimidating, because it seems to increase my already introverted, inaccessible nature, like it's swathing me in shadows. Lumina does the opposite for me, by bathing me in sparkly glowing fairy dust. Maiea, I'm very curious about this too. I have 2 spray bottles of the UN (lightly scented), a roll-on of the UN, and a spray of All Hallow's Eve with Lumina. I've never ordered so many versions of one thing in such a short timeframe. It's just pure magic for me, so I hope it'll sprinkle some of its fairy dust on others also.

Yes Nutrix, I was also surprised by the mysterious metamorphosis when the scents melded together. Later on I even got a soft hint of the liquorice-y note in FP as well. I think the magic happened because of the way the smoke element combined with all the other notes.

I'm currently wearing Sugared Bonfire with a slightly smaller amount of Sugared Birthday Cake. At this point, about an hour in, it smells like a softer, pink-toned version of Flying Potion 2013 on me. FP 2013 is much stronger and to me has a grey lavender tone to it, but the resemblance is uncanny despite the differences.

Give it a go then Donsie. It really seems with Cougar and Lumina that sometimes if one works really well for someone, the other will be "meh". Cougar is a subtle blend on me with inconsistent results, like you mentioned. Lumina makes a noticeable, wonderful difference. I've even had several people start stroking my arm, touching my hair, etc with this stuff. I am not a toucher, and tend to project a protective barrier around myself, so this is very out of the ordinary for me. It draws people to me like moths to a flame. Good luck!

Wants all the beautiful goodies. You'd think the wait for descriptions each month would get easier. So why does it always feel more intensely desperate? I am such a greedy-eyed LP pig!

So excited I'm drooling on my keyboard.

Thanks guys, sounds like I need to add another bottle to my collection.

Yes Nutrix, this scent couldn't get any better! The magic in this one is so strong. Wearing it always makes me feel content and comforted and secure, but also seems to draw positive energy/attention/situations to me. I hope it does the same for you too. Your choice of ingredients here was absolutely inspired.

Fabulous Girlfriday! Can I ask if your natural persona is quite strong and dominant, or more soft and quiet? Because I keep wanting to try this one, but I keep backing away from it due to feeling like I can't behave in a particularly congruent manner to the phero. I've read Dolly's reviews and lusted for similar results, but am not the fabulous, confident out-there sort of person to begin with.

Does anyone else out there find that this stuff makes men very complimentary? I don't just mean being nice and sensitive and attentive to needs, but actually coming out with surprising compliments? For me it sometimes acts like SS4W, with a more calming, laid back presence. Several times I've worn this stuff (sometimes in The Big Easy, sometimes the UN), dressed in old, not aesthetically pleasing clothes, no makeup, my hair all naturally wavy/messy looking, the PMS gargoyle crouching on my shoulder, and I'll head down the street and find men calling me "beautiful" or telling me I have "an angelic face", etc. WTF? It's starting to worry me, because isn't this one of those that's said to kind of give the impression of a "calm male presence"? I swear I don't look like a man. Not at all. I've been told I'm very soft and feminine. But I'm starting to wonder if the slightly more masculine phero signature is perversely attractive to these men, like they appreciate women with man-sprinkles on top. I feel like I'm starring in The Crying Game. Any clue what's going on here?

Wow Phergineer, cinnamon and black pepper? I'm continually amazed by what individual skin chemistry can do with the same scent. Glad it's still working for you though. I've never had the least hint of spice-like scent with this, but one time I put it on and it all of a sudden seemed overpoweringly sweet to the point of being nauseating. Must have been a hormonal thing, because every other time I've worn this it's just gorgeous, elegant and light.

When I first tried this a couple of months ago I thought, "eh..." It didn't seem to have much definition or presence. So I put it aside for a bit and tried it again today. Now I loves it! It really is a scent that captures the essence of the natural world, rather than expressing itself as a "perfume". To me it smells like green plants, a spring breeze carrying a hint of light-scented flowers, and a sweet honeyed version of freshly cut grass.

Androstenol, your story reminds me of the first time I wore CB (it was in Velevet Kisses). I went to visit a friend in hospital, and approached the very stern, grumpy woman at the front desk to ask where to go. As she was speaking to me her whole face changed from disapproving grump to happy and friendly. She became so nice and chatty and just couldn't stop smiling the whole time she spoke to me.

I've got a spray bottle of Lumina lightly scented with this, and it is, as SpriteLeigh says, like a sort of spicy sexy caramel. I love to wear it with my Caramel Musk spray. They meld so beautifully together.

I'm loving this one too. It's softly sweet, smooth and elegant, gauzy, quiet and mysterious, like the whispered breath of a lover against your skin. I'd love to get a spray version to really bathe in it. I think it would combine beautifully with so many things that the spray would be really useful. But it's definitely beautiful all on its own.

I'm loving the innocent clean pinkness of this one. I'm surprised to read that some people have found they can only wear a little or it's too much on them, because I seem to be able to slather away with this and it's never overpowering. It also seems to blend beautifully into the background with lots of scents. I've been wearing it often with Open Windows lately. Perfect combination that makes everyone happy to be around me. ETA: I forgot to add, I absolutely adore and utterly appreciate any scent which manages to so completely cover the smell of cops. It's magical to me that such a soft clean scent can do this so completely.