starlitegirl

Ah well I must be incorrect in calling it nesting. I meant nurturing, protective and caring.

I'm so glad you started that thread and have this name for your scent because it's given me many, many laughs.

Oh you just couldn't resist posting that question, could you?

Maybe it's something in the whole nesting thing. EST triggers that nesting vibe doesn't it? Maybe it's the difference between coming across as a strong don't take any crap woman and coming across as a woman who is more about being cared for rather than can take care of herself. If you're general vibe is more of a strong confident woman (which on here it seems to be) putting EST into the mix might throw him. He probably likes that dominant vibe. How is he with Dominance? Or Leather? The self-effects are probably good for him because the nesting vibe is generally a relaxing one. So if he's not generally a relaxed person (you mentioned extra test. which is alpha male domain I would think), then maybe the est in H&S is just enough to relax him without being too strong. Also, it's about the blend as a whole. Straight out est or strong est might not do it for him whereas a blend with est that is more balanced might be just right.

It's a sexy confident strong woman vibe. I guess along the lines of Dom. TAH is the kitten version and might be more like Lace. TAL is the strong, sexy, confident and can handle herself one.

Ah yes, an est boy. I'm hitting the Dom for two reasons- 1) kicks up the self-confidence and really helps me feel more like me 2) helps me determine what guys can actually handle or like me for me

Gals like us HAVE to list phero blends (ok we don't have to, but it's so much more fun). We use them like perfume!!! Plus favorites do change periodically when new ones come out or we're choosing different ones based on life stuff. I just started using Dominance after reading a few of Dolly and Shelly B's posts. Dang, that one is perfect for me. Wouldn't have been on my top 5 a month ago though.

Treacle Trollop LP Black LP Red Pherogirl/Une/Honeycomb Passion & Desire (sneaking in Garland & Lace - trying to use it sparingly) Pheros: Lace Dominance! Super Sexy for Women A-Nol & EST Open Windows

Oh very great recommendations with explanations. I love it when people add specifics about their experience with them. Thanks for taking the time to do that. Always gives me a better feel for which ones to use in which circumstances. Thanks TG!

Cuddle bunny and sexology sound like they might suit you. They're geared toward more intimacy and connection than outright sex.

I only need two sprays on a good mood day and 4 on a depressed day to get me to a happy place. More than that does give me a headache. So with 2x if you're doing more than a few sprays, I can only imagine the headache your getting.

What's going to happen is dilution of the scent because you're adding all that extra silicone. Also, dilution of the phero because you're adding all the oil. And it would have to be shaken but it's going to be diluted, or at least I think it would be. If you were going for an ounce spray bottle with 20ml of perfumers alcohol then you could pour either in and it would be fine. You might be able to go down to 10ml of alcohol and add the red and BI, but I would think you'd still need to shake it before application and with that little alcohol it might not diffuse well and might clog the spray nozzle. Not sure though. Potion Master (Mara) might have a better idea. I'm just basing this on my own experiments.

Well a gal always has to have her whip. It's just a matter of whether it's on hand or IN hand.

5'9" with 4" heels? You are rockin' it. Dom straight up me thinks. If you have anything with est or est straight you could always add a spritz of it if you want to lean more toward leather. I've come to picture Dom as the full on Dominatrix with her whip ready to go and Leather as the sexy woman in leather who keeps a whip in her bag. Yeah, I'm weird.

I love this one. On my skin it's a nice strong cinnamon. In spray, it's still cinnamon, but it holds the sexiness of black but softer. I knew this one would be great.

I absolutely agree on this! I dated one guy who turned me inside out feeling needy. Also, if you're attracted to someone and don't know how they feel about you that can create needy feelings, as can just feeling a void like you want to be with someone and are not. Dominance is good for all of them to some degree, but getting to the root of that feeling and addressing that is what will do the most good long term. Dominance or even leather is great to get you started.

I love the spray of leather to the chest for confidence. Awesome idea! I don't have leather but I think I'll use dominance with a shot of est for those days I'm off my game. Thanks!!!

I've found that scents that don't work with my chemistry make for great betas. I'm getting cuddle bunny and eternal chain trial sizes to test. Red and Mara's rocket fuel get devoured by my chemistry, but in sprays they are awesome.

I ordered the kit. I was on the fence because I have a bunch of hoodoo oils (none that match these YAY!) but I'm a dunce about remembering to use them except if I'm anointing candles or money. Mara pointed out that with the carry case I'd always have them with me and that could help me remember to use them. D'oh! So now I can have them with me and use them at a spur of the moment. Such a good idea! ETA: YAY! We can get more sample sizes. I'm so glad to have this option. Thanks!

Great descriptions Mara! I'm looking at five of them now because of that.

Hoodoo wise, Return to Me is for having a lover return to you, but I don't see why it couldn't apply to money. I think it would depend on the specific ingredients. If there are ingredients that are specific to love, using it for money might not work as well. Otherwise, I don't see why. The Hoodoo ones that are for money or can be applied to money are Lady Luck (especially if you buy a lottery ticket with the $), money drawing, wealthy way, prosperity oil, attraction oil (works for attracting just about anything you want), and money stay with me. When I used this one I somehow kept close to a hundred dollars in my wallet and didn't spend it for months. Next round I didn't use it and it didn't stay with me. I never gave it any thought until after the fact. Check the ingredients or check with M&D. It might be more of an all purpose.

It's definitely worth a try. This is THE happy phero. I've worn this when my mood was depressed and it brought me from depression to totally content with a side order of not caring and destressed. If it can do that for me, I can only imagine what it can do for the average person. I'm seriously thinking this stuff should replace antidepressants.

Can we get vials of specific ones? Or is it only a set?

Then be all Joy to the World TO him. If you're nice when dealing with him, he will start to mellow out. I suspect he's only that way when you're 'I'm leaving' so if you're nice (which Lace does make you happy and things are like one big no worry - at least it does with me) then he won't get that sense that you're out the door. He might even feel like there's a chance and stop with the guilt. Heck, you could even say that when he does the crying guilt thing it makes you want to get away from him ASAP. That might give him a reason to stop. And then you can have one less drama to contend with.

While dealing with Mr. Shelly, I'm sure the Joy to the World feeling would sure help quite a bit! Might put you in that 'whatever' zone so that he doesn't drive you batty.