phergineer Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 (edited) I guess the question itself may scream Open Windows, but let me share a bit about my situation first. .. I am an introvert. In my personal space, with my immediate family and fiance, I am relaxed, silly, simply myself. However, if anyone invades my private space, I put up a front. I become passive aggressive. Here's an example. This weekend we had plans, my fiancé and I to go for a bike ride and brunch. Saturday, one of his coworker/ girl friends texts him and asks if she can stay over at our place, after she had already borrowed his car the entire day. She's been looking for an apartment in the area, being out of town. I foresaw this happening, and got frustrated. Last time she stayed with us, she made herself really at homw, putting her clothes over my artwork and shoving her clothes in my closet. My fiancé said she'd fly out this morning and our biking and brunch plans wouldn't change. I doubted it. This morning, turns out she doesn't fly out until the evening, and our plans were out the window. He's blamed me for shutting her out and being inflexible - which i am. He says he's just helping a friend and she wants to be my friend. He says I always stress out when his family comes over too. My question is - what phero would help me overcome my anger towards her and be open? I really don't want to be around her, but I realize I have to make an effort, to show I am mature enough. I understand my reactions may be unwarranted. I just don't enjoy when someone imposes on me.moreover, my fiancé and I have been on bad terms all weekend because of my attitude... He has been very frustrated with me and I would like him to get over it and both of us to move on. Thank you! ETA: grammar mistakes due to my state of mind... Edited November 9, 2014 by phergineer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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