Eve

When I first found LPMP perfumes, my main reason for joining this forum was so I could use the search function.  At this time searching was limited if one wasn’t a forum member.  (If there was a way to search, I never found it.) Since then the forum has gone through a major upgrade, and anyone can search.  The point is, until I joined I was unable to see the full site.  What is accessible without logging in is just a fraction of what there really is. 
 

As a guest, one can see there are ten main forums, when in fact there are 17.  There is also a section of journals/blogs by individual members. 
 

I’ve learned so much, and formed valued friendships, none of which could have happened if I’d not become a member of this community. 
 

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I’ve steered clear of this, never so much as a trial vial because I mistakenly thought it had patchouli in it.  But, I was cruising around the LP site looking for ideas to add to the invoice request for the Happy Hobbit foot soak, and I took time to read the ingredients more carefully.  
 

I’m taking a chance on a trial vial of it for this order.  Cinnamon not always good for me, but that’s usually when maple is involved.  Civet doesn’t particularly worry me, and I like the phero Sexology in other fragrances.  Yeah I’m a risk taker lol 😶

 

Yay!  Thank you for thinking of us @Potion Master. I’m currently dithering about what I want to ask for.  Yet another time I wish I were local so I could pop in your magical kingdom and sniff them all. The Happy Hobbit always draws me because of the name, and I’ve never tried it, but some of the others (Hello there, Lemoncream)  call to me too.  

@Snoopyace it sounds like your parting with her was amicable, seeing as she likes wearing a fragrance she would have to associate with you, regardless of what season she is wishing to have a reminder of.  

ADDING:

If your goal is to find reviews of Sexology, most of them in our forum are for the various iterations of the scented version.  
 

For the UN version, the first post in this thread talks about an unexpected reaction to it, but further down the thread in the eighth post, she clarifies that she’d accidentally (over)applied Sexpionage, thinking she’d put on Sexology.  Therefore, the reaction she and her partner had was to the heavy handed Sexpionage, not Sexology.  
 

I’ve applied one phero thinking I was using another, especially with pherotine bottles, because the labels are the same except for the name. (Read the label Eve!)

@RosesArePink I understand. It  had to be a rollercoaster week of emotions for you.  I wish he’d lived up to his name too.
 

It’s time to focus on yourself now, and know that after more time passes, and reality settles in,  it will grow harder and harder  to remember why you ever thought he was so wonderful.  

I just ordered another bottle of Beewitched boosted with UN Sexology.  
 

I like this phero, but don’t have anything with it in it, other than my lone precious bottle of Wild Cherry that I’m treasuring and rarely wearing.  
 

Beewitched is another great love of mine, and it  will be sold out at some point unless Mara includes it in the permanent lineup, so I’m adding another couple of bottles while I still can.  
 

Sexology is rarely mentioned here, and I’m not sure why that is…

9 hours ago, RosesArePink said:

@Eve

 

Right...no good can come from it. If he were actually, definitely separated/divorcing that might be different. 

@RosesArePink it’s a rare man that will actually leave an unhappy marriage, then seek and  follow through with a divorce,  unless he has someone else he knows he can go to. The problem being that the woman he  has become involved with (even just emotionally) is not always the one he  wants to be with once he’s free. I don’t know what the statistical odds are, but I’ve seen it happen again and again. 
 

One married guy I’m thinking of had been seeing someone for 13 years (he was one of my former boyfriend’s bffs). He finally got a divorce.  I don’t know if he left her or vice versa, but did he marry the girlfriend of 13 years, or even keep seeing her? No, he met someone new who had no connection to his past memories of conflicting loyalties, and married her about eight months after the divorce was final.  

 Women, not so much. We tend to say f* it, and leave  because we are  unhappy, without any other involvement with another  man. Women will stay in an unhappy marriage due to fear of retaliation, fear of bodily harm, a sense of duty, moral values or religious beliefs, or children if they have any, etc. 

So yeah, I don’t believe it would be a different enough scenario if he were definitely already separated or divorcing.  Divorced, all said and done with, all signatures and final decree…. then possibly, but really no .  You had feelings for him before those steps had  been taken by him (assuming that he ever does take them).  

 I mean think about it.  Texting you via an app while he’s married?  If he wasn’t doing anything he felt his wife shouldn’t know about, why not just text or call you without being furtive about it? It’s just not good.  It could be your future with him.  No long term happiness there. 
 

Sometimes it’s a very good thing when potential relationships are blocked. Call it divine intervention, or fate or destiny.  Mutual love will happen when it happens.  You can’t hurry love. And, like I mentioned before, sometimes there is someone right there in plain sight that is overlooked.  
 

I’m very sorry you found yourself in this situation, but it contributed to your experience in life, and it helped lead you to our little forum.  We are happy to have you here. 

Two more  reasons in favor of chocolate ice cream: 

8. It doesn’t notice if you’ve epilated lately

9.  It has no knowledge of Brazilian wax jobs. 
 

(I just got out of the shower, and thought of this when I observed the state of my legs….) 

On 8/22/2021 at 11:13 AM, Eve said:

 …..  On the other hand,  If he IS  in a relationship, and does not work it into the general conversation over the time you’ve known him (and I mean in group settings) that is not a good sign. People in happy relationships tend to mention that person from time to time.  Not so much talk about them, but they exist….

On 8/22/2021 at 11:13 AM, Eve said:

 

@RosesArePink do you remember when I wrote this?  It has concerned me from the start. 
 

I’m so sorry that this is the case with him. However I am VERY  impressed with how you are handling it.  For you to opt to work remotely shows great strength and maturity on your part.  
 

Yes it’s going to be hard at first, but not nearly so hard as it would be if this had continued on for more months while you remained in the dark,  all the time growing fonder of him and building up hope.  
 

I do think he likes you, but that’s a whole scenario that you don’t want to get involved in. 
 

About  how to handle the texting:  You  can’t play the “I’m hurt because you mislead me card” because he didn’t. He just omitted.  No point in bringing it up at all. It’s  not even his cell number he gave you to reach him with.
 

 I think you can delay answering him each time with increasing increments of time intervals.  He should get the idea that you are busy with other things. 
 

He sounds like he has genuine concern about your cat, but because you’ve said your kitty is doing well, Mr Wonderful really won’t have much of a reason to keep checking on him. 
 

DON’T talk to him about things going on in your daily personal life. He certainly did not share with you.  Let’s say you’re going to a fundraiser or wedding or to visit your aunt. (Anything)He doesn’t need to know this.  Be nice, it could possibly impact your work, and eventually you’ll see him again in person. 
 

As for the chocolate ice cream….

1). It always tastes good.

2). It always smells good.

3). It’s there when you want it, and stays conveniently out of sight when you don’t.
4). It doesn’t care if you just woke up and have bed head and are wearing mismatched socks (one with a hole). 

5). It doesn’t judge your choice in tv shows, books, music, friends or family. 

6). It’s scientifically shown to make you happier.

7).  It can be eaten straight from the carton eliminating any need to wash a bowl.  A quick rinse of the spoon and you’re good to go.  
 

@RosesArePink  It sounds like the time with him was good.  But, it is curious that he didn’t elaborate other than to say he had vacation time he had to use up. Especially when he said he was going out of town.  Maybe he’s just not a talker.  I dunno. 

That’s good news @RosesArePink.  I hope today is a good one for you.  (Yes, that’s him). 

@RosesArePink I’m glad you heard from him, and hope the meeting on Friday goes well.  At this point I think you know what you want to choose as far as pheromones.  
 

It concerned me I was overstepping into a type of advice you were not technically asking for, as what I wrote had nothing to do with pheros, but, I’m ancient, and have perspective/insight because I’ve been around for so long 😀.  
 

PS 

I hope your kitty is as comfortable as possible.  I lost a dog (who I loved like a child) to two concurrent diseases, each of which made it harder to manage the other.  I know it can be exceedingly rough for pet parents faced with decisions and yet no way to make things right. 

@luna65 I like tropical drinks  🥤🍾🍹🧉….    putting it on my list of next possibilities. Thanks. 

For those of you who have this, did the banana stay way in the background?  I didn’t try because although I like how bananas smell, I don’t want to smell like a banana….. 

@RosesArePink I’ve been giving this some thought tonight. It has been busy around here since I got back from a trip, and oddly it’s tonight, when I should have no time, that I actually have some peace and quiet, and time to give more thought about what I want to say.  
 

We as women think differently than men do.  We usually multitask better, we are often more intuitive than men are.  But  I believe we also tend to rationalize—to create an excuse or more attractive  explanation for why the other sex does, or does not do things.  Especially in  matters of the heart.  
 

Most men are never going to tell a woman to her face that he isn’t that interested in her.  They just don’t.  They speak with their actions.  
 

On one hand, your Mr Wonderful is now texting with you, and tries to move your scheduled next meetings sooner than they were originally to be.    Those are encouraging signs/actions.  On the other hand, I know you want more than that. I do think that when your one project finishes up, if he hasn’t asked you out, it means something.  Men ask women out.  They just do.  We as women tend to find reasons why this doesn’t happen, but what that does over time is erode the confidence we have in ourselves.  Don’t let it get to that point. 
 

Do I think you should show up at the next meetings looking  great, and smelling as nice as you can?  Yes, absolutely! But keep things in perspective.  He’s one guy of many.  He may be even more wonderful than you already think he is.  Just know that you are exceptional too, and that you are worth pursuing. And if he does not realize this, he is not all that wonderful for you.  

 

@RosesArePink I think you’re reading the situation well.  He is interested in you.  He likes being with you , and  has what sounds like a genuine interest in being there for you in some  aspects of your personal life (your kitties). 

It seems to me that he is keeping his distance.  There are missing parts of what might be the normal flow of conversation.  It’s impossible to say what the reason behind this is.  Is he being reticent due to being a private person, or is he being tactful because he likes you and doesn’t want to hurt you?  Has he had problems in the past with stalker types who won’t let go?  
 

What is current etiquette is as far as exchanging cell numbers? If he has yours, and he owns one, why not share it with you?  it could be nothing. It could be significant.  But I don’t think it’s completely nothing. Like you said, only a yellow flag.  But you know what a yellow flag means.  Proceed with caution.  
 

The holidays are hard on people. Some remember losses, some are uncomfortable with the implied commitment getting together for even a casual occasion could imply.  There is alway a reason, conscious or not,  when parts about oneself are omitted from being shared in a friendship.  Everyone on the face of this earth has  some things about themselves that they don’t talk about. That’s human nature.
 

This season upon us can make being single feel more like being alone.  And the tiniest doubts can feel magnified. Because of this, I hope you won’t attach too much significance to how your next encounter goes with him.  He has his reasons, time will tell what they are.  
 

I’d take a step back until after the new year. Enjoy seeing him, use the pheros you feel are effective for how you want things to head. But give yourself something else to occupy your thoughts for the upcoming couple of weeks.  See how often he spontaneously reaches out to you. But don’t fall into the trap of checking for messages, and wondering why you’ve not heard back. 

 

@RosesArePink  how exciting!  More evidence he definitely likes you.  
 

If the opportunity arises, see if he will open up a little about his life outside of work.  I just think it’s a little unusual that he isn’t texting in the more usual way. But, on the other hand, I get it as far as disliking all of the texting that goes on for many. Some people are on their phones texting while talking with someone else at the same time. It’s annoying.  
 

I look forward to hearing how it goes tomorrow.  😊

@Eastwood22 😁.
 

And yes, see how it works for you @RosesArePink  it’s different than Lumina, but similar in that it’s social phero that has  a feminine sexy vibe.

@Potion Master , @Eastwood22 and anyone else who enjoys board games, I wanted to post a few we’ve been playing lately. 
 

Last night we tried one that involves mixing potions, and I couldn’t help but think about our community here  
 

My potion kept exploding and I lost, but it was fun!  And I think once you get it figured out, the game wouldn’t take too long. 
 

Here are a few others…

The Great Western Trail is a very long drawn out game (fair warning).

The  bottom two game titles in the photo got cut off.  They are Kingsburg, and Evolution.

Ticket to Ride is even better if you buy the expansion set cards, because they’re  full sized and a lot easier to shuffle. 

Today I went with my daughter to a stained  glass supplies shop/studio.  I had on Beewitched  that was boosted with Charisma, but I wasn’t really thinking about perfume or pheros, I’m just in love with Beewitched.  
 

A well respected glass artist who has several of his works acquired by private collections of wealthy, very well known families, happened to be in there.  I think he was there getting supplies, I don’t even know.  He’d already said goodbye to someone working there, and appeared to be on his way out the door.  But no. He came over and struck up a lengthy conversation with me.  Finally, he said said that well, he’d had to be going now.  Then came back inside to give me his business card, and chatted another good while.  
 

The name of this phero blend should be Charisma for Eve!!! 😁

@luna65  Thanks!  I’m so out of my comfort zone explaining pheromone blends. I know Gotcha is great for the reasons you stated, but I did not take into consideration the workplace implications. As the TG is a doctor, I’m sure he has to make sure he doesn’t cross over the professional line, especially in today’s climate.  And after thinking about it that way, I’d lean towards Lumina.  @RosesArePink If you guys do see each other outside of work, make darned sure you GOTCHA him though! 
 

Well, yeah guys can be weird.  Their minds work differently from ours (not weird, but it makes it hard for us to read them until we know them very well).  As a generalization, men tend to compartmentalize, and work on one thing in their mental “box” before moving on to the next thing. 
 

My best guess is he was distracted by work, and think it’s great that he wanted to get together in only a couple of weeks time.  Either phero would be okay, but remember that Mara created Gotcha as an unscented  pheromone  version of her original Love Potion perfume.  I don’t see a downside to using it, but I’m no expert on pheromones. Hopefully others will weigh in. 

@RosesArePink  I hope your meetings go well 
 

I do think you might want to set some sort of timeline for yourself as far as how long you want to focus on this guy.  
 

You mentioned you mostly end up with a broken heart when it’s all said and done.  One way (rather than steeling yourself for a let down) is to set that timeline and stick to it.  
 

Move on if he does not make any real move toward knowing you better, rather than letting things drag on until you’re hurt. 

Yes, I think you had a positive interaction with him.  But also yes, I think if his comments had moved into “definitely significant” territory, he would have made sure you had a number you could reach him on outside of work.  There’s little doubt he likes you.  That’s a given. But there’s like, and there’s Like.  
 

I’m not saying you are wrong to be encouraged, I’m just saying don’t allow this guy to have an open ended invitation to your heart. 
 

 It’s one thing to work hard to save  an established relationship.  But, establishing the relationship itself shouldn’t take a huge effort on either person’s part. 
 

Life is weird, we can expend so much effort trying to get what we think we want, meanwhile a person who we would find interesting, and be attracted to gets overlooked.  
 

 

@RosesArePink I think that was a very positive reaction.  (I’m pressed for time right now, but wanted to respond). 🙂