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@Potion Master you certainly outdid even yourself!!!  It figures that the one NR that slid under my radar is Domina Vere 😐. Now I’ll have to watch for reviews for it too. 

I got my shipping notice!  Anyone else? 

I’ve never used, or even sniffed any of Mara’s  prosperity type potions, but @citrine’s repeated requests for Gimme Money made it impossible for me to ignore this year’s Material Squirrel.  Of course it helps that I think I’ll like the scent anyway, unless the maple doesn’t behave itself. 

I need reviews!!!  The main one I’m curious about that I did not try is Black Pearl.  The patchouli worried me, and I’d like to know how prominent it is.  
 

@luna65 I am excited to read the story you wrote to go with this one.  Is it a steamy French Polynesian romance? …possibly  with a twist thrown in… or no twist, just just sex.  Or no sex or romance, and not set in the South Pacific, but a historical setting,.  Or, back to to South Pacific, it could be  a tragedy that befalls a diver for the pearls…. or something else altogether, and I’m wrong.  Again.  

@greenappletart Your insight/intuition adds another dimension to this.  Just as you may have been hesitant to comment from the perspective of someone who doesn’t have kids, I feel at a distinct disadvantage when discussing pheromone blends.  I have very little noticeable effect from the social pheromones. I get a lift from Levitation (😀) and even more so from DHEAS, but for others I don’t notice much, if anything.  (and you probably already know this because we both joined here about the same time).  Sexual pheromone blends I do  have a response to, but I have no way of knowing if what I identify as a response is on par with someone who easily  responds either negatively or positively to pheromones in general.  
 

@CosmoTea I wouldn’t be too concerned about taxing your guy  with a bit of sexual desire due to your use of cops or sexual blends.  Somewhere in one of your posts you mentioned something about not wanting to put him under pressure to perform when he comes home tired from work.   Men typically are more than willing to overcome fatigue for this. Really. 
 

@greenappletart said it in her last comment.  Help the man see the rawr side of you.  He won’t mind.  
 

It’s hard, but don’t attach too much importance on each little perceived or overtly obvious reaction he has.  Humans are imperfect.  Male and female brains are wired differently. Hold onto the parts of you that you want to shine again, and they will. 
 

You said up thread somewhere, that you hoped I’d found my happiness elsewhere.  Yes I did.  I took the long road there though, with some wrong turns along the way.  We’ve been together for over 20 years now.  We are not married.  And still, every day, even though he is so kind to me, and non demanding, I work at our relationship. Early on, in the very beginning stages of forming that relationship, he said he liked it that I was interested in what he had to say.  Somehow that stuck out to me, and I make it a point to ensure he still feels like that.

Listen to your SO, be the You he was first attracted to, and wear what helps you be that person.  If you’re not able to identify that a pheromone influences you, and you’re unsure, or worried that it affects him negatively, then yeah, don’t use it. It will all work itself out, and you’ll be a stronger couple for having to make the extra effort. 
 

On 3/14/2022 at 10:57 PM, Potion Master said:

 BUT I AM NOT RETIRING @SirenSong!!!! I still have 8 years to go on my current lease, even!!! Not going anywhere.

Whew! I had never even considered you’d retire before @SirenSong mentioned it. (And yeah, Wisdom is even MORE  age appropriate for me than he is for you. Haha)

2 hours ago, Kayla said:

Mara, you are so thoughtful. I keep coming back because your perfumes are beautifully crafted and appreciate that you are a beautiful person too. The time and care you take with all of us by answering our questions and following through with the business end of things is really amazing! The whole LPMP team is so helpful and caring too. ❤

 

ETA - Sooo happy that you aren't planning on retiring any time soon!

I second what Kayla said. 

I ultimately got trials of Pax, Figue de Lune, Material Squirrel, Ruzina Prasina, Allumette and Wisdom.  FBs of Buns of Cinn, Snoozle, and also Kiki because I’d asked a while ago for Kimi to put one aside for me.  
 

36 minutes ago, luna65 said:

...and of course Da Mawa gets the biggest  of all!

 

 

Oh yeah, she totally does! 

@CosmoTea  yes, I have EoW.  It is very stinky.  I’d originally thought I’d make my own OCCO strength versions of perfumes I already had, but I chickened out. IMO Mara knows best.
 

However, when I am willing to take the time to apply it straight up, let it completely dry down, then completely cover it with a scent, the response from both of us is worth the extra effort.   Keep in mind I’m post menopausal and he’s a few years older than me.  
 

I’d say his response isn’t that different from when I use OCCO strength perfume (the man is helpless to resist in many cases)  My response from separating the EoW out from the perfume and layering them is greater, but I think that could be a mind thing occurring with me. Planning and anticipation plays a part…. 
 

I’m glad you found it!  I really enjoy DHEAS. Were you able to converse with Mara about the other phero molecule differences in the UN pheromones that don’t have the specific ones listed? 

@CosmoTea Most of the time, pure DHEAS are available on the store website.  I looked and didn’t see it, but it may be because of programming for this massive new release.  Or they may just be low on stock.  They used to have the extra strength, but of late it’s just been the regular (cannot remember the exact mcg at the moment).  The best form of it is spray.  I don’t think it’s even available (when it is available) in a rollerball bottle.  You can definitely use it with cops.  Absolutely.  

Welcome!  You’ve arrived in the forum on a historic day. Years from now this massive new release will still be talked about, and you can say, “Yeah, I was there for it.  I remember”.  😀

@Potion Master oh no!   I already placed my order.  I want a Snoozle too!  If I order separately can you combine with shipping for the order that just went in? 

@Kayla it’s 🍒! !!  (Bubblegum Bettie) 

@Potion Master WOW!  Still plowing my way through the descriptions. 💗

Well, I tried scented Cougar in the past, and it wasn’t for me.  I’m hopeful this fragrance that contains Cougar will be.  

@Vika aww, that means a lot.  I always imagine those of you who have been around here for a while are thinking to yourselves “No!  Don’t do it.  Don’t ask Eve about pheromones!  Ask her to describe a scent (maybe) or how to bake a perfectly crispy cookie, or a gardening question, or about a John le Carre  novel, or many other things. Just not pheros.” lol. 
 

Seriously though, I’m not a pheromone expert.  But, I’ve been around a long time, and I’m good at reading people, and that helps make up for areas I’m lacking in, at least a little bit. 
 

@CosmoTea I feel like Vika expressed my same thoughts, just with different words.  And, like she said, we’re here for you. If nothing  else you have a community that will listen to you, and can relate. 
 

Please keep us posted. 

Oops, I hit enter before I edited order of what I wrote.  
 

I meant to say if you choose a pheromone designed to help less outgoing quieter personality types be more like you already are naturally, it should be a win win.  
 

If you are concerned about him reacting to a specific molecule in pheromone blends, and it’s too great of a puzzle to figure out which one it is, then what about pure DHEAS?  Just DHEAS and cops.  
 

Break out the Blatant Invitation or Sexpionage for times that you’re not putting any sort of importance on something “happening”. Not for a date night, just wear it, and try to not think about it afterwards.  Put it out of your mind you have it on. 
 

See how it makes YOU feel.  See how HE reacts, or does not react.  But analyze this after the fact.  Look back on it later,  not from the time you first apply it.    

@CosmoTea I understand you’re feeling as though you’re between a rock and a hard place.  It takes time, it just does, after a woman gives birth for hormone levels to adjust. I was in a seemingly idyllic marriage, but my then husband failed to understand this. He was determined to have frequent sex with me whether or not I was interested.  Our relationship went into a tailspin.  It did not recover, and it died a protracted painful death. 
 

You are not at that spot.  You both want to get back to intimacy. 
 

I do not feel that using a pheromone will change your perceived personality signature.  What I think (and this is coming from someone who is definitely not an expert on pheromones) is you use them for yourself.  Find what helps you feel like the old you.  One that makes you feel like MORE you.  The rest will work itself out.  Wear perfume that you like the scent of, and you are pretty sure he at least doesn’t dislike it.  
 

You said you’re already chatty and playful.  I know there are pheromone blends designed to help those who are less so overcome their introverted nature.  If you think he reacts badly to them, wear the bubbly happy ones while he’s at work to help you feel less stuck in a role that can be taxing ( it gets easier, kids do actually become independent).  
 

Wear copulins.  Wear OCCO White today.  See how it makes you feel.  
 

Have you tried Blatant Invitation or Sexpionage? 
 

Is there something you enjoy doing that you can do more of, just to give you some variety in your life?  It sounds like he goes to work, instead of working from home.  He gets to see other people, and has a change of scenery.  On the other hand, if you’re feeling stuck at home, even though it is totally rewarding, you still need time to be the you that is just you. 

Well, that’s a relief 😅 not a huge fan of root beer.  
 

Me too @Vika. Also Atlas.  Is it a reference to Greek mythology, or an atlas? 

@Eastwood22 lol. But true. No one has said much about Bubblegum Bettie. It’s not like all actual bubblegum smells the same, it could be anything, but presumably a pink sugar type. 
 

Now I’m wondering about what part of my guesses are right.  Does Rooted smell like root-beer due to sassafras? 

Rooted- Ginger or Licorice, with some Rhubarb to sweeten it.  
 

Or, if not literal aromatic roots, but symbolic, then a deeply rooted wood such as Sassafras  because this tree not only has deep roots, but it has an aromatic calming scent.  

Hmmm, @luna65 gave her coveted star, but (of course) did not elaborate.  Some of us need some elaboration.  A few of us need a LOT of elaboration. 🤔

If Material Squirrel is a foodie scent, this is exciting. Nuts, huh…. 
 

If Earthly Pleasures is earthy, which I figured it was, the patch will at least narrow my order down. 
 

And, as no one has said much about Argent, I’ll take a stab.  How about a cool clean, and a little bit sweet, light silvery scent?   Juniper or another aromatic component, white musk, vanilla (just because I like vanilla, and I’m the one doing the guessing) and, of course, the obvious notes that I’m completely overlooking.  

@CosmoTea I am so not the person to advise on pheromones!  Really.  
 

After that disclaimer, I will say that with the  trial vials, to get a clearer idea of reactions either to the pheromone or even the fragrance, it’s best to just upend the vial on your skin (don’t lift it up!) and apply that way.  The little wand that comes in the trial vials delivers such a tiny amount.  
 

I remember taking notes about TH-Doc, back when I first discovered LPMP.  Unfortunately I decided it was a great idea to enter the notes on my iPhone for easy reference.  I subsequently decided it was an even better idea to password those notes, so my guy wouldn’t accidentally see them (he still has no idea I use cops or pheromones heh heh).  The failure was that I didn’t keep referring to what I wrote, and as time passed I completely forgot what password I used (or what I wrote)  and I cannot access them myself. Ah well…

Part of me wonders if your partner isn’t subconsciously sensing how hard you are trying to get him to reestablish that bond and commitment you previously had, and it’s not so much a pheromone he is reacting poorly to, as much as it is not wanting to be forced into something he is not ready for.  How would  you feel if you were preparing to go somewhere with him, and you truly wanted to go, but you weren’t ready yet.  You were still putting the finishing touches getting ready. Meanwhile he’s out in the car, and keeps honking the horn to remind you he’s wants to go right then, that very moment, not later when you were comfortable that you could go and have a good time.   
 

It might not be the pheromone at all, just that he could feel manipulated but can’t identify why he’s feeling that way. I don’t know if I’m making sense, or if I’m completely off base.  But, if this was the case, then it would be like you saying it’s all about you and what you want.  You know, “Get close to me Honey, I smell happy today (Levitation) I’m a fun person to be around.  See how happy you feel when you’re with me?”  
 

Cops would be excluded from inadvertently causing this reaction, because straight men pretty much have to react well to copulins.  And, a sexual connection does lead to emotional bonds that lead to commitment, cops should not have anything but a positive outcome for you. 
 

Or, it could be that with a trial vial of unscented pheromone, you’re just not using enough.

Or, like you said, it could be this particular molecule combination. That’s a @luna65 and @Potion Master question perhaps. 

@greenappletart Haven’t you used Sheer Essence?  It seems like you commented on it somewhere a while back. 
 

@CosmoTea If you like OCCO White, Noco White smells almost identical.  It is the same fragrance minus the cops.  I wear that simple combo fairly often.  Both are extremely long lasting too, which is another plus.  Be brave (lol) try it!  
 

I’ll also layer  Noco White to slightly alter how another fragrance smells.  

I missed out on the previous Darling Clementine, so I’m planning to order it before it sells out.  Also Buns of Cinn,  Allumette, Black Pearl, Material Squirrel, Wisdom, Ruzina Prasina,   Figue de Lune, probably Snoozle, and one or two others to start, depending on what the notes are, and sampler choices.