I know this is just me (and not to say that you disagree, necessarily), but role-playing is not stupid, not at all. It's not for everyone, sure, but as it's been said...the most important erogenous zone is the brain.
But this is a good example of what pheros can and cannot do. They can enhance your confidence, but you need to have some to begin with. Dolly's suggestion is a step in the right direction.